my crazy life
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:22 PM
In the past I have tried and tried to get him turned on, to only have him turn over and say not tonight, I'm too tired...after being repeatedly rejected over and over again, makes it kinda hard to even try anymore. that makes me feel really dirty inside, and not sure if that is healthy but breaks my heart! And I'm just not sure anymore if I'm just being selfish and should just get over it and accept it or what? This can't be healthy way of living!
It wasn't until 4 weeks ago, my ex-boyfriend stepped back into my life. We loved each other very much and had great sex life. I have not gone as far as to cheat with him, but I still have these feelings for this guy and I miss having someone love me. I know that sounds selfish and self-centered, but that's just the way I feel. and now we are finding ourselves drawn closer than ever! and I find I miss him so much!
I'm just so lost. I just want to be happy! Anyone out there thinking I'm being way too selfish?
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:43 PM
why would you even get married and then get like that? i dont understand, my parents are the same. one is completely uninterested and the other feels compelled to cheat to get what they want- the things every human being should have ie love compassion some EMOTIONS!
i bet he works oh so hard too. shit, i've worked 16 hour days for 6 months straight, 6 or 7 days a week and still made time for my love.
things like that piss me off, because there are guys out there that would kill to have the opportunity to treat a lady right, but scum bags take all the horny women and then don't even use the tools they bought!
really, marrying a woman with a sex drive is like buying a porsche and putting it under a cover in the backyard- another thing men do so much.
cheat on the fuck. he deserves it. you have any kids with him?
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 12:55 PM
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:01 PM
Yea, in the beggining, was good, until we got married, then it was not as good, but nothing like it has been for the past 7 years.
I do have 1 son, but he is 19 years old now, so really nothing hanging over my head anymore.
and this other guy, loves me so much, still even though I broke his heart when I got married. and wants whatever I want.
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:05 PM
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Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:35 PM
I only have 1 friend. My husband doesn't want me to go anywhere without him and I can only visit her when he is at work. I have been invited to so many of her parties, but I can't go cause it will only cause us to fight and he will pout for days because of it.
we have no friends that come over and he doesn't want anyone to come over or to go to visit anyone. so yea, I feel like I'm a prisoner here
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:42 PM
Sounds like you have the green light. I would go for it.
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:43 PM
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Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:56 PM
However, that's a step I'd take. It's the right thing to do, even if it seems doomed. Stranger things have happened (than reconciliation) and if it does come to divorce, you can say you tried (esp. if hubby didn't).
Go easy on the new relationship before you get the old one worked out. That can really hurt you in divorce proceedings. If you get caught cheating, you lose all sorts of advantage.
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:59 PM
I have mentioned counsiling before, but he just gets upset cause he sees nothing wrong.
you guys are great thanks!
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 02:06 PM
It is good to get a dialogue going with a professional. If nothing else, they can explain his behavior to you and it looks good in divorce court -- yes, even if he doesn't go.
You don't have to go for long. Just get some sessions going and then decide.
It might help you deal with the despair and explain what's going on both with your hub and with this new relationship so that you can make clear decisions.
I will say in advance that some counselors are better than others (OK, some are no good at all), but even one that sucks should be able to get something going for you.
Posted Wed Aug 26, 2009 02:34 PM
You are a beautiful looking woman, any man should be happy to give you the love and care that you want and need. Take care, you are talking about the rest of your life. Do you want it with the man that pushes you further awa?
Posted Thu Aug 27, 2009 10:12 AM
Starshine - every part of your story indicates he is getting his sex and affection elsewhere.
Jealous, nonintimate SOs are the ones who cheat then accuse you of cheating because he knows how easy it is. He is most likely not being with you because he's worn out or saving up for another.
The number 1970 in your ID leads me to believe you were born the same year as me.
The pic of you now looks much better than most girls in my high school yearbook.
I suggest divorce him before you catch VD from his antics, play the field before you try to relive what once was with your old flame, and most importantly:
START A PIC THREAD ON THIS SITE SO WE CAN SEE "MORE" OF YOU - YOU ARE GORGEOUS.
I make sure to make and provide intimacy as separate from sex. hint hint
Posted Sun Sep 13, 2009 07:31 PM
Posted Sun Sep 13, 2009 07:38 PM
It's not a good idea to start a relationship off by cheating, but I'm not saying it can't work, but start it off the right way. If he really loves you, he'll wait and respect that.
BTW, you're very pretty. I'd do ya in a second
Posted Sun Sep 13, 2009 08:07 PM
starshine1970;843025]I have been married for 20 years now[/quote][quote=starshine1970 said:
Pardon my assumptions if I'm wrong, but shotgun wedding?