Here's the thing. I have a weird-looking scar (called a keloid scar) right in the middle of my upper chest. Here's a picture of it: http://i6.photobucke...n/chestscar.jpg (it's much redder and more noticeable in real life than it looks in the picture).
I got this scar from a traumatic event in my childhood. It brings back really painful memories when I think about it. And here's the problem - it's really affecting my sex life, because whenever I'm with a girl, I don't want to take my shirt off.
It's not so much that I'm embarassed about the scar and think the girl will be turned off by it (although that is part of it), it's more the fact that girls always ask about it (which is logical) and I obviously have to give an explanation for it (a lot of people don't even realize it's a scar and think I'm diseased or something).
So, I tell the girl what it is and that brings back the painful memories I mentioned. In fact, even before I take my shirt off, I know the girl is going to ask about it so I'm already thinking about those painful memories. Needless to say, thinking about these painful memories and having to explain the scar absolutely kills any excitement I might have and makes me not want to do it anymore (even if the girl is up for it). In fact, this prevents me from even trying to go after girls I'm attracted to (even those that I know are attracted to me too).
Needless to say, all of this makes me very sad, because I do want intimacy with girls and don't want to be alone for the rest of my days.
Thanks a lot for reading this. I would really appreciate anyone's thoughts or suggestions on this matter.
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