Scared of attachment.
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 03:46 AM
Hey guys, I'm new to this, but anyway, I got a question.
I'm 18, a virgin, and have played with myself for quite some time, since I was like 11, no joke. I have always thought about sex and craved it and now that I'm 18, I crave it even more. A few months ago, I had some "foreplay" with a guy, nothing serious. We hadn't been "friends" for very long and very soon after we "fooled around" I noticed that I felt "down". Almost like empty because of no "connection" between us. It's interesting because I have NO interest in a relationship, but when I think of sex, I always think passionate, erotic, emotional sex. What the hell? I want to have sex so bad, but I'm sick of being scared of feeling "empty" and "rejected" after.
How in the hell do I get rid of this?
Also, is having sex with someone without a relationship "intimate"?
That's always the type of sex I dream of, but again, I don't want a relationship, sigh.........
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 04:19 AM
Having sex with that one person you love! Jesus, I craved that so bad! I crave just to hold someone I care about that equally cares about me.
Girls in general don't do it for me. I need someone special. Someone I can lean on, not just for sex. Someone I can look at and get that warm fuzzy feeling.
Im in that same situation. Everytime I've put myself in your position, I get burned. I want to share passion with another woman, not just fuck like rabbits. Its justs hard to let go and melt your resolve...that's justs me.
Waiting for other responces...
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 04:27 AM
Waiting for other responces..."
Ugh, I hated when I messed with the guy. He wanted to go further and so did I, but when I gave him signals as bright as a god damn deer in headlights that I wanted a "connection", he kind of ignored me and refused to talk about it. And then when I started ignoring him and stopped talking about the sex I wanted from him, he wondered what the hell was wrong with me and why was I ignoring him. Such an ass..but then again, I almost feel like I'm the ass. I can never get it "right". @$#%@^$@!!!
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 07:58 AM
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 12:38 PM
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 01:00 PM
B A said:
I just read a post about that. But I don't think that's the case. I do that more on a "recreational" level. I don't do it on a daily basis. I do have binges every so often I guess you could say (like once a month), but it's not a daily thing. I don't think I feel disconnected, but I feel like if I have sex with someone, will they really have sex with me only because they want sex, or do they actually think I'm attractive or worth a damn. I have a lot a "self-esteem" issues, so I think that's affecting me too. I want sex, but then I start to think too damn much. Ugh. I need to stop and move on with it.
Posted Sun Aug 30, 2009 01:13 PM
Relationships are great, but sometimes u need you time and dont want people on your shit.