Does this sound suspicious?
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 09:15 AM
I've been going out with this guy for about 2 months, he told me at the weekend that he took weed about a week ago, it came into conversation some how.
I sent him a text basically asking him if he was gonna take it again n this is how it went:
Him: Don't worry about it.
Me: So is that a yes or no?
Him: To what?
Me: Taking weed.
Him: What about it?
Me: I'll put it simply - are you going to take weed again?
I asked my friend n she said that he's either dumb or he's hiding something. I haven't received a reply yet - any thoughts?
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 09:31 AM
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 09:39 AM
especially him not replying after you giving him a point blank question
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 09:45 AM
What the actual feck?
He then told me to "chill out" cos he was walking to his mates which is why he didn't reply, oh and also "what is with you?" is what he said to me.
Following on from that I sent a text back telling him exactly how I felt, like he doesn't make an effort anymore n whenever I ask if he'd like to go somewhere it's always followed by "I guess so" there's no "yeah sure - would love to :)" =/
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 10:25 AM
Not saying hes into the hard stuff just think its best to stay away regardless.
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 10:31 AM
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 10:47 AM
have you been togther long enough for you to ask him to stop though?
i didnt agree with my ex's smoking but i left it a year before helping her stop.
if you dont like something about this person and believe it isnt what you want in a relationship then get out now.
or wait and then say after 7month togther i dont like it, stop it or i go.
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:19 AM
but honestly, ive met people that have broken up over bud and its really dumb. the shit grows out of the ground, its cheap (can be anyway), and possession is decriminalized in 16 states (atleast).
coke i can understand big time. coke is a real drug. its addictive, its dangerous, you can die and you can get locked up for a long time. i had a buddy OD on cocaine and i never did it again after that. but pot isn't addictive, nor can you die.
the trust thing is an issue, but you kinda force him to lie because he wants to be himself and do his thing and you put him in a position he is not comfortable in. fact is, 22% of the US population admit to smoking pot regularly or at least once a month.
and i agree with easy, alcohol is far more dangerous to everyone than pot. are you going to regulate his drinking as well? maybe you should keep an eye on his pain killers also, after all, my mom nearly killed my whole family driving stoned on Valium when i was 12. if she just smoked a joint instead, that never would have happened.
pot isn't taboo- just like sex isn't taboo for US (yet it is for so so so many people in the general public), within the next 30-40 years it will be a consumer commodity much like cigarettes and alcohol.
imagine having to show a marriage license to buy condoms. you can't restrict people, it causes problems. it's not like he's blazing with some girl and they are having some awesome sex and you're left dealing with lies.
but to each his own, i understand the thought processes dealing with "illegal" drugs, although Uncle sam's hand is wrist deep in drug trafficking.
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 12:07 PM
The only problem I have with that is that they have several easy test to see if a person on alcohol is impaired. No such test exist for grass. Little research has been done on how long after use a person is impaired either. Most stoners will say "Grass does not impair you" while they barely can stand up. I believe it should be legal but these issues must to be addressed.
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 01:01 PM
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 01:24 PM
Posted Wed Sep 02, 2009 01:52 PM
and pot does impair you lol anyone saying it doesn't is a moron and doesn't even know the proper defense.. the impairment (ie: being high) is the WHOLE REASON for using the substance in the first place...
i don't drink beer because i like the taste, i just like to be a little tipsy sometimes.. sometimes i like to be trashed. is it wrong? NO! because i know the difference between right and wrong, and something that does not harm other people or create an especially dangerous situation is not wrong. the only 'wrong' thing i do is how i drive. that is dangerous and can hurt people, but smoking some weed before i go to bed isn't.
but like i said, he'll probably leave you if its a new relationship. guys kinda don't like their toes stepped on.