Virgins getting Married... help!!
Posted Sun Sep 13, 2009 11:51 PM
So I am 23 and I am getting married to the girl of my dreams in a few months. She is 21 and we are both virgins. We both decided to wait to have sex a long time before meeting each other for religious reasons, and it is really special to me that I am marrying a virgin.
As far as our sexual experience goes, we have both messed around with each other and done just about everything else up to vaginal intercourse (including anal play) She loves rubbing my ass when she goes down on me and we have even tried anal a few times, but never had the needed lube and I didn't want to hurt her so I really did not get much farther in than my tip.
So, my question is basically, what should I expect on our honeymoon? I have heard so many stories of people saying the first time is going to hurt her, and I obviously don't have expectations that I am going to be able to have hardcore sex with her our first time, but other then that I don't know what to expect. Am I only going to be able to go in and out a few times before she needs us to stop? How many times does it usually take for a girl to actually enjoy sex? Is there anything I can do now to make it better for her now? When I finger her and when she masturbates she has been able to stick two fingers inside her pussy, but beyond that she says it hurts because it is too tight... So yeah I guess I am a little worried. My dick isn't huge, about 6 inches but I have decent girth, and she is a pretty tiny girl...
Any advice you all have for me would be great.
Also, what are your thoughts on buying sex toys to bring on the honeymoon. Should we just focus completely on our bodies and leave that for later? We have both talked about buying vibrators and dildos for her, but I think she is a little worried that she will get to into the toys and not as much into me. I'm not really worried about that at all as I think its really hot if she uses that stuff. Oh yeah, and she really really wants to try a strap-on on me (as do I)...
So let me here it! And thanks in advance for the help everyone.
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 12:02 AM
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 12:46 AM
As far experienced goes, first time is always hurt. So your job is to get her wet. Get lubricant. Learn well to stimulate her pussy, make her feeling high enough and excited. If you can make her wet naturally, thaf's better.
It seems like she is looking forward for real sex during a honeymoon. As some prefer to come slow like cuddling, kissing passionately, experiencing each other body and notice self sentiveness on every night. No hard sex. But romantic appeal.
There is nothing for you can make her feel better now as she has not experiencing it. You have to play some part to make her enjoy sex. For a woman, it takes quite some time, maybe months to enjoy sex.
For vibrators, you can try on her, if she knows that can excite her better than with you naturally.
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 01:12 AM
hey, send me a private message, i'm up for whatever =)
i have pics to email, and a digital camera taking requests haha
But all right, I'll answer your question with a question--
What are yall planning for birth control for your big religious experience--I mean your wedding night?
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 06:07 AM
the meaning of a virgin has become a bit lax as of late
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 06:46 AM
My experience is don't question it, just smile and nod.
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 07:07 AM
dnt worry make slow love to her
both r virgins ,,,its somethin special,,,,
make her feel that way,,,when makin love
its gona hurt her dats why u gna need lube
or unless shes really wet
im kinky so i would want it to hurt her
but if ur nice and u wanna do her sort of fast
use alot of lube so it wont hurt her and u can have some more of enjoyment
have fun n good luck
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 08:50 AM
Posted Mon Sep 14, 2009 01:40 PM
Posted Sat Sep 19, 2009 06:02 PM
B A said:
Yeah, people are not too smart sometimes. Generally, I dont use the same name, or email for that matter, for different sites.
Posted Sun Sep 20, 2009 06:01 PM
Just take it slow, don't try to go to deep, keep calm, composed, you will be fine. It may feel uncomfortable or strange to her, it might hurt if she has never been penetrated by anything before, but its not an unbearable pain, just be careful.