Keeping disease free
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2005 01:52 PM
What steps do you take to remain disease free? It may cause some to feel dirty or insulted, but in this day and age "he/she is a good person and looks clean enough" just doesn't cut it for me.
Does your protection levels include condoms, STD testing, etc??
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2005 08:08 PM
Anyway, condoms are one of the handiest ways to reduce the risk of disease. Gloves for manual sex, and barriers for oral sex are also important.
Sometimes, it's actually fun to use these things. Methodical, non-spontaneous, planned sex can really make you focus on the experience. If you talk about what you're going to do, and make sure you have all the necessary items on hand, it can increase anticipation and attention. I like it.
A friend of mine, the most wonderful person in the world really, is HIV positive. She has a woman partner who is negative. My friend says she used to jump in bed with whomever and just "smish" together, but now she has to stop and think about sex, and express her love by protecting her partner. She says she actually likes it better.
My husband and I have this attitude with the people we bring into our sexual relationship. Safe sex is required, but it's also fun. We also get tested. As a result, my husband and I are free not to practice safe sex when it's just the two of us.
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2005 08:14 PM
So it's not common practice to request possible sex partners to have an STD test done prior to activities? I/We would certainly submit to one at the same time to give the other person proof we are disease free.
Personally, I'd rather know the person is clean than have to use a dental dam and gloves when fooling around.
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2005 08:30 PM
But here's something else: Safe sex allows us to have relationships with people who are not disease free. We don't want to exclude a whole category of people, some of whom we are attracted to. Safe sex expands possibilities.
I will also suggest that safe-sex accessories can be, well, sexy. There are ways to make putting on a glove and lubing it up into a sex act.
Posted Tue Nov 22, 2005 08:48 PM
Even if it's between my gal and another gal, we'd both feel better knowing all of us are clean. I'm just curious if that'd be offensive or a deal breaker to anyone? If so, I'd probably just alter the strategy to proposing an STD screening.
We/she's looking for another girl to have fun with. She'd like it to be someone who she will have a long term FRIENDship with as well as a sex buddy. So spontanious sex isn't really an issue. I can see how it would be an issue for some though so safe-sex would be the only route in such situations.
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