Posted Wed Sep 30, 2009 08:43 PM
I am almost 26 years old, and I have been circumcised my whole life, right from the day I was born. I had to because it was a medical emergency. So, I have 26 years of desensitization. The good thing is, I can last a very very long time, the bad thing is, I can last a very very long time.
Let me tell you what I mean. In my last relationship, we would have sex for hours at a time, she was french, she loved it. I never once got off during sex, she always finished me off by blow job. I was content with that, we were getting what we wanted.
Now, I am seeing a new girl, and we did it two times so far. She can't last nearly as long, and I can get her off pretty damn quick. The problem is, it ends up hurting her after a while, and of course, I still can't get off. Now, that was fine for me because she was getting off. BUT....she doesn't like this and sees it as a problem. She doesn't want to have sex knowing that I won't finish, so basically, I got to learn to get off quick, or I am done. That is a lot of damn pressure.
I want to know if there are any circumcised guys out there that have this problem. i can only get off by blow jobs, I want to be able to get off in her, and she does too. I don't know what to do. I have given up masturbation altogether in hopes that will help, but by doing that, I am afraid I will get off too quick, but right now, that could be a good thing. I was also reading about a product you can buy called manhoods. Anyone have any luck with them?
Please help me out.
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Posted Thu Oct 01, 2009 11:35 AM
also she could give heads/titjob/handjob for u first (not til the end of course) before u getting in to her so that could also short the time of actual business...
Posted Thu Oct 01, 2009 12:41 PM
1. Lube under the condom as well as on top of it.
2. Are you well endowed? If the condom is too tight, it might be working against you by squeezing the blood out of your penis. So, try a large-sized one.
Other ideas... you can orgasm from a blow job, but not during sex? Sounds like it might have something to do with your mind. Are blow jobs your fantasy? If so, try expanding your repertoire of fantasies. Are you so worried about pregnancy that you are nervous about ejaculating inside of the girl? If so, talk about it and decide how to handle it, either via birth control options or making an agreement about how you would handle an unwanted pregnancy. (I, for one, would love to have children, but I do not want to be a single mother or bring a child into a less-than-committed relationship, so I would opt to abort, although I desperately try to avoid getting into this situation.)
Another possibility on the psychological side... Are you overly concerned about the girl? Sometimes men are so concerned about the girl that they fail to relax and allow the girl to pleasure them. It's very sweet, but can end up backfiring when the girl feels insecure because she can't please a man to orgasm.
Also, try different positions, especially ones in which the girl's legs are closed. It will tighten her vagina and provide more intense stimulation for you.
And, make sure that you're stimulating other erogenous zones as well. Use toys to stimulate your testicles, prostate, or other areas.
Finally, foreplay is probably key for you. If you're really aroused before you get to sex, you probably will be half way to orgasm and will probably orgasm faster once you're having sex.
(Advice from a girl who has been on the receiving end of this issue... and let me say that sometimes I really enjoyed this "issue" and sometimes, I just wanted it to end! It just depends, but you need to be with somebody who will work with you through it. For that, nothing beats open communication.)
Posted Thu Oct 01, 2009 02:29 PM
Any advice on being to "quick"
Posted Thu Oct 01, 2009 05:35 PM
So I would like to know a way to work this in somehow.
abazian, it can be great for those long nights, but when the opportunity arises for a quickie, it aint happening, and that is frustrating.
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