Requesting some advice
Posted Wed Sep 30, 2009 11:18 PM
I always knew that I would be way out of her league. I mean, she is a beautiful, intelligent, fit, funny, and kind woman while I... I am a bit of a wreck. From a young age I have been highly intelligent, but suffer from severe depression and some schizophrenic symptoms. I am not the most attractive, being 5'11" with bright blue eyes, a heavily worn face, pale skin, a messed up, broken body and a fragile mind.
My problem is: What do I do now?I have never seen another human being the way that I saw, and still see, her. I cannot try and be interested romantically in someone, because in them I only see where she is better. What can I do?
Posted Wed Sep 30, 2009 11:36 PM
then, i suggest mustering up enough courage to tell her how you feel.
if she responds positively, then great. if not, at least you told her and you can move on. 10 years is a long time to fixate on just one person. there are many wonderful people out there. you just have to meet them
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:51 PM
If you have never "come out of the closet" about your feelings for her, she would not need to totally cut ties if she found a new boyfriend.. so I think you need to simply ask her if she is ok.
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 01:05 AM
What I can tell that, either she is shy to your approach or trying to withdraw from any serious build-up relationship with you. This is just my way of seeing things.
You are close to her ever before, gather your courage and speak up or ask her how she feels for you. May be she needs those question first from you rather than mutual and common meet up.
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 01:27 AM
she treated you badly by cutting all contact without explanation after 10 years of friendship. you deserve better. if she recognises her mistake, then she will go some way to being worthy of you and you can reassess whether you're interested in the new context. in the meantime, know that her behaviour was not nice, and she is more fucked up than you think. rather than you being out of her league, sounds like she should be out of yours (unless or until she recognises that this is a shitty thing to do).
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 10:56 PM