Thoughts of Burning a Man
Posted Sun Oct 04, 2009 12:13 PM
So a few weeks ago, for the first time in my life I visited this yearly "social experiment" that has been going on for years called "Burning Man." This event is held in the Nevada desert, and it is so far off of anything I have ever experienced that explaining it in words is truly impossible. The reason that I chose to write about this is because after seeing so many posts the past few months on here about the "lables" we humans choose to put on everything (gay, straight, bi, republican, democrat, married, single, black, white, tax payer, welfare recipient etc etc), this event had a very large impact on me for this reason.
So just as a bit of background, the event is held in the middle of nowhere specifically so nobody else will be bothered (and perhaps so the cops have a harder time keeping us "under control"..) After being there for a week, the best way I can explain it is "everyone goes there to do "their thing" (whatever that may be) while at the same time being totally accepting and appreciative of what others choose to do as "their thing."
While there are countless exciting and enjoyable reasons to visit (believe me- the is something for EVERYBODY), the one I want to focus on is the amazing amount of sexual freedom without judgement from others. I dont mean, "hey I am a guy, and I want to have sexual freedom while I do that hot chick I do not know"... what I mean is that for one week, nobody there has any interest in using any labels or values attached to those labels, and because of that, it becomes the most accepting and loving place I have ever been.
As a large athletic guy, when "in the real world" I have to constantly remember not to stand too close, or speak to loudly so that I do not intimidate/worry those around me who do not know me. At the same time, I feel all of societies and family expectations of me to be "a man's man" (whatever the hell that is supposed to mean- probabily that I never get "too sensitive or emotional" or "stop working to be all that I can be"). Well when I went to this place, both sides of that dissappeared. Everybody was simply kind, warm and complimentary. The atmosphere was such that I have never felt more "at home" at any other time in my life. And let me say that again, just so it sets in- I have never felt more at home in my life than I did for that one week surrounded by "strangers."
For the first few weeks after I got back to "the real world" I kept replaying the things in my mind to try and make sense of it- at times wondering if it was just a dream or a flashback.... How could a single gathering of people so change "the rules" of society so completely for a set amount of time? My question for all of you, is- have any of you ever experienced anything similar (regarding the accepting social climate) in your lives, and if so when and where?
P.S. mods, I posted this here because it dealt with social climate as it pertains to the sexual atmosphere, and I wanted to put it in a well traveled place hoping that it might interest one or two other members who next year might confirm my story... but if you think it would be better categorized in another location- feel free to move it. thanx.
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Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 01:28 AM
My father has been doing an outdoors event of psychedelic trance every new year's eve for at least thirteen years. It's amazing how people just goes there willing to dance the passing year off and have fun. In 16 years we didn't have the need of using an ambulance, and there's this comradeship that builds around the people that you just feel so loose and comfortable and sex blooms. I had a lot of awesome and crazy experiences in this party and witnessed much others, becuase people is not there seeing what's what you're doing with any severity. When a lot of people who wants to have fun gathers outside four walls and gets rid of a lot of stuff for one moment it's just amazing and liberating.
Posted Mon Oct 05, 2009 07:49 AM