Past girlfriend troubles
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 07:48 AM
Her problem is that she knows she still likes me a lot, she just forces herself not to. I got her to admit that she has no reason to hate me, but she forces herself to get angry at me so that she can't get too close. I always tell her, that i wouldn't do anything to risk losing her again because of all the troubles i've been through trying to get her back ever since.
Then school comes around. I'm a freshman 4 hours away and the day she moves into her senior high school boarding school she texts me how she was packing and saw pictures of us and she just really wanted to see me. She asked me when the next time I came home to call her. And told me that she would love to be my girlfriend if it weren't for her feeling bad that I'd have a gf in college and i told her that i didn't care. When I did come home 3 weeks later, things didn't work out and later that day she texted, "Can you please call me the next time your home hun, i really want to see you." Turn's out I'm going home this weekend, so I instant message her saying i'm coming home, can we go out for lunch or something and she just replied, I can't, it's parents weekend," and left it at that.
My problem is that whenever I contact her, she doesnt want to talk to me, but when she contacts me, she'll want to talk on the phone for hours. ONLY ON HER TERMS, i feel. Or she'll call me randomly just to get angry at me over something that has no purpose.
So, how do I express my feelings one more final time because I really can't keep submitting myself to this trouble, it really hurts me to open up to her again and then she drops it. I want to explain to her how i feel and i know she just gets angry to protect herself, but she really needs to understand my point of view. I personally think I should wait for her to contact me so that she is in the mood to talk to me and explain it one last time.
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 10:16 AM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 06:07 PM
She talks about how she wants to meet up, and you say yes. She's probably getting a ego-boost from that shit alone. Then when you wanna meet up with her, she rejects yo ass. WTF is that about? When she says she wants to talk to you only because she was home sick, THERE YOU GO! When you say you knew she contacted you because she knew you would comfort her, THERE YOU GO AGAIN!.
This chick has you tagged as an "emotional trashcan" She gets her fill from you, then fucks you over.
The next time she calls you with that shit, you say, "I cant , im going on a study-date with this really cute, nice girl I really like" and be in a hurry, not because you ARE in a worry, but because you need to keep away from contact from her. She's using you dude.
Bumb this girl and find a better one who won't fuck with your head. More importantly, one that will treat you better.
This girl is trippin...
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 08:54 PM
i had dat relation ship
i cuzzd her out
and she became mute LOl
now shes all on me
i reversd it
Posted Tue Oct 13, 2009 04:37 PM
Two days ago she sent me this text, "A killers song just came on my ipod, i loved that night. It was pure bliss." This was the first thing she's sent me in a long time. The story behind the text was that I took her to their concert and she loved that night and etc... But I replied how it was a great night and then no response from her. I just don't understand it. Why does she send a text like that if she doesnt want anything and then not respond?
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 09:41 AM
But, I can clearly see that she is using you to cushion her bad feelings. If she's down, lonely, bored, whatever, she can count on you to make her feel a little better. Even if you don't say things directly, just knowing that you're there makes her feel better. If she doesn't want you when all is going well, then there's no point for you to talk to her at all. As you said, it's tough, but it's your choice to end the relationship and then try to improve your life or you can let things fester.
So, tell her your feelings directly. If she cares, then there is a chance. If she does anything less, then move on. Furthermore, if you do tell her your feelings and she doesn't give the greatest response, continuing the same relationship will just bolster her feelings and put you even further down. So, be prepared to end it completely, or you're selling yourself short.