Husband hiding toys - HELP
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 05:45 PM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 06:07 PM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 06:26 PM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 07:13 PM
Something is making him react the way he does to you, I'm not sure you'll learn what that is here.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It sounds very frustrating.
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 07:53 PM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 07:59 PM
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 08:02 PM
But I know if I walk in on my wife masterbating it's a huge turn on for me.
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 08:10 PM
I think masturbation is normal and healthy. A little "me" time.
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 08:43 PM
finger him with anal toys in exchange for some sex
im pretty sure he loves it and turns him on
once hes turned on
do a trade for sex
once u orgazm , play with him
should be fair i think
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 08:55 PM
I go through times where I like this form of masturbation. It's unhealthy and just like any other kind of dangerous addiction I have to fight not to do it. There's a thrill involved you may not be aware of. The thrill of doing it is this: it is very intense and can be over very quickly or with control can last for maybe 30 minutes. It's a different type of orgasm completely, trust me! The ejaculate looks different, has a different consistency, tastes different, and shoots much farther. It is probably the difference in you having an orgasm from clitoral stimulation versus vaginal sex. Stronger and more satisfying, correct?
When I get in one of these cycles I want nothing to do with my wife because this is more pleasurable than anything I've ever experienced with her. I've even come close to (my status says I'm bisexual) having sex with another man to take it to the next level. Luckily I backed out the last time I found a suitable candidate.
Your husband doesn't want to hurt you, he just wants to pleasure himself. He thinks what he's doing is taboo and even wrong and that's why he won't involve you in it. Involving you in his newfound pleasure might not work out for you too well because he's likely into the quick release that's going to leave you wanting for more.
Hope this helps. I know what he's addicted to.....
Posted Wed Oct 07, 2009 09:43 PM
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Posted Thu Oct 08, 2009 09:42 AM
I've done it alone and I've done it with my special lady friend.
I am by no means gay.
It was great when I masturbated and even better when she blows me or I'm inside her.
I've made many posts and threads regarding her strap on that has a vibrator for me and one inside the set up angled for inside her so we both get pleasure in each push.
He's hiding them because of what happened when you found out before.
Talk about it in a nonconfrontational way.
Maybe bring it up to him that you want to push a vibe inside him and have been fantasizing about it for a while.
The only part of sex that requires therapy is illegal.
He's just being him.
We have no control over our sexual preferences.
That's why sex offenders are tracked for life, or even better, here in Kansas, USA leave prison straight to a locked down mental health facility for an indeterminate length of time.
You can't change your sexuality, presumably heterosexual female.
Make it part of play time and I bet you get more playtime with him.
If you have an aversion to it and won't allow it in your bedroom, for the sake of your marriage let him keep his DVDs and vibrators a "secret".
Posted Thu Oct 08, 2009 10:14 AM
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Posted Thu Oct 08, 2009 11:46 AM
The problem is that her husband doesn't want to have sex WITH HER. He has no qualms about satisfying his own needs but is not considering HER needs. He is ashamed because this is his "kit" that he uses to please himself, of which he neither requires nor wants her to have any part of.
I know this scenario all too well because I have this same hunger that her husband has. Maybe I should see a shrink I know it is not healthy for my marriage but at the same time when I get horny in that special way I find myself heading to a store to buy a vibrator/butt plug.
I'm not a prude. If I were I'd be hanging out in the wrong place. But some of these sexual deviations aren't healthy. I know my particular vice drives a wedge into a 23 year marriage every time I get the urge.
Something else for confusedgurrl to think about...... do you find that your tampon box gets empty faster than you think it should? I used to get a thrill (BIG thrill) out of stealing my wifes tampons and using them. An even bigger thrill is to snag a tampon from the women's bathroom at work, from a friend's house during a visit, ........ where ever I could get one.
Posted Mon Oct 12, 2009 01:14 PM