What would you do.......
Posted Thu Oct 15, 2009 11:56 AM
Posted Thu Oct 15, 2009 12:23 PM
There's 100% chance my daughter is NOT mine, yet the emotions are the exact same as my son who is 100% mine.
Don't let your feelings about the baby and her get intertined and a tangled mess.
She did you wrong, buddy. There is someone out there who will not run back and forth between men and you may miss her while chasing your dysfuntional ex.
Love is very powerful.
But did she really treat you like she loved you?
I'm sure she loved you when you put money on her commisary, but she wasn't loving you when she was making love with her ex and not telling you the risk you were taking by having unprotected sex with an unfaithful partner.
You would now the answer to your question if it were an STD and not the loss of a precious life complicating things.
Mourn the child.
Get rid of feelings towards the ex.
Posted Thu Oct 15, 2009 12:51 PM
Posted Thu Oct 15, 2009 01:33 PM
On the girl, well, she's currently with the ex, and she haven't quite behave with you. I don't know man, it's your choice, you can go with her and take the risk and I think you really know what are the chances of getting your head and heart messed up and that's probably what is fighting against the love you have for her. Nothing, you have to decide how much shit are you willing to take from her, and I personally, would have gone nuts on her and walk away.
Nothing, you love her and she's not as nice with you, I don't think you can trust her as much, but what the hell, if you still want her, go with it but do it with the idea things could go wrong and if they do, being ready to take it like a man and accept how things are.
Man, I know it's not easy, but I don't know, the fact that you are asking this here makes me suspect you're not feeling in your head that it will work, so probably the best way to protect yourself is cutting this.
I don't knwo, I can't tell you what to do, just get your head straight. This would probably be hard in either way.
Luck, man, hope you get all this shit worked out.
Posted Thu Oct 15, 2009 02:26 PM
I agree with what others have said. Going to a grief counselor or support group would be a good idea. I'm sure you can find one that is free, and you don't have to talk. Just go and listen; it will help.
About the girl, given the way she acts, the love will die. It will die whether you stay with her or not. If you stay with her, you are probably going to get far more hurt before the love finally dies. Whatever you decide, just go into it with your eyes wide open. (I stayed in a bad relationship until the love died and I regret it so much now; How could I be so stupid?)
Probably the healthiest thing you can do is work on yourself. How did you get involved with this kind of girl? How can you prevent it next time? And of course, facing the grief will help.
Posted Sat Oct 17, 2009 07:40 AM
I did and still do love her but I will never love or thrust her that way I did before. I couldnt be in a relationship where I would second guess everything she told me.
I started counseling yesterday,hey we all need it sometimes. We take sometime but I will be back to the person I use to be.
Once again,Thank you everyone.