On the verge of a break down
Posted Sun Oct 18, 2009 05:03 AM
Posted Sun Oct 18, 2009 06:07 AM
Your profile says that you're a 23 year old male. Is that right? If you could give us this information, we might have better advice.
Posted Sun Oct 18, 2009 06:14 AM
Posted Sun Oct 18, 2009 07:03 AM
Posted Sun Oct 18, 2009 07:39 AM
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 08:04 AM
The advice that I would give you is to look at whether or not you're really happy. Is what you have enough? If it hasn't been any better in three years, chances are that it will never be different. In deciding whether or not you want to marry him, you have to look at whether or not you want to accept what you have. It doesn't sound like you are really fulfilled. But only you can decide that.
I will say that from what you've said, it looks like you're going down a difficult path, whatever you decide. I watched some of my friends go through it, too. They married fairly early, and I had reservations, but they felt some pressure from society to marry young. Now, they're divorced. With this kind of feeling from the relationship, I would predict the same for you.
On the other hand, the long-ish relationship of my early 20s ended. Honestly, not by my choice, but now I now am thank my lucky stars. It was a really tough break-up for me. I was in my early 20s and thought it was good enough. Looking back, breaking up gave me the opportunity to follow my dreams and my path in life. My friends, in turn, allowed their men's lives to guide or compromise theirs. They wound up eventually feeling like they lost several years of their lives.
So, even though you love him, I think you should end the relationship altogether. At a minimum, you need some serious couples' counseling to get your sex life and communication figured out. You also need to address why you would stay for 3 years with somebody that isn't really making you happy.
Posted Mon Oct 19, 2009 11:49 AM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 12:03 AM
Lol, if a guy said that to a woman he started dating, he would never see her again.
I agree with that lmao.
shit, get this sorted....dont even think about sealing the deal until its worked out.
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 05:22 PM
Posted Tue Oct 20, 2009 06:21 PM
B A said:
I agree. I wouldn't get married until everything is straightened out. And I also agree with meow's idea of counseling. It really wouldn't hurt to try.