How to fall out of love?
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 06:24 AM
Ive recently split with my girlfriend of three years. You may remember the thread I started asking for advice as she was treating me really unfairly.
Its been a month since we split and I am still broken up about it. and its making me ill. No matter how much I try, i cant stop thinking about her. Even though I have started to get close to a girl i have known for years, which when I am with her, its all about her. Keeping her happy and treating her right.
But then when I am alone my thoughts go straight back to my ex. I really dont know what to do. Im finding it really hard to cut her out of my life.
Any Help will be appreciated.
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 09:18 AM
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 09:32 AM
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:47 AM
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:52 AM
Nox is right. Need to find something to occupy your time.
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 05:50 PM
"Love can make and break you, to heaven and hell it can take you"
The goodness of love is mirrored in its grief.
Time is the only healer, not even another person (I believe) can cure
you of that person. Time is all that can help, growing to accept over
time that they are not yours anymore.
Its the price we pay for love
Posted Sun Oct 25, 2009 06:56 PM
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Posted Mon Oct 26, 2009 07:52 AM
But thankyou again for the advice.
Posted Mon Oct 26, 2009 09:33 AM
But thankyou again for the advice.
All the best to you! Have fun with your family and let us know how things go for you! Until then take care of you
Posted Mon Oct 26, 2009 02:02 PM
Best of luck to you, hope all goes well.
Posted Mon Oct 26, 2009 04:54 PM
Posted Mon Oct 26, 2009 07:29 PM
and im not messing...i got over my ex by going on a man eating spree and i was starting to settle back down when i met my current bf!!! it might not seem appealing but it really is the best way cause you realise that life goes on and you can have a better life after her...but be careful not to get into a relationship with the new girl untill your sure your fully over your ex ir it could end badly!!!
best of luck to you!!! X
Posted Tue Oct 27, 2009 10:59 AM
It is possible however, to busy yourself with other things and other people. Move on and it will fade. May not seem like it now, but it will.
Posted Sat Oct 31, 2009 06:12 AM
Admirable! Very Admirable!
As has already been said, you never fall out of love-- I would not be surprised if 20 years in the future you are married and happy and still find yourself thinking about this girl from time to time-- That is the way that love is, it is lasting, it is powerful, and it is forever-- However, in that future you will not be looking back upon this past relationship with pain, or remorse-- In fact you will be revisiting it as a part of your history that has helped mold you into who you are-- My long winded point -- -- -- the pain you are feeling will subside--
Posted Sat Oct 31, 2009 09:20 PM
B A said:
Couldn't have said it any better------
Ill only add by saying that time heals wounds-- You can't expect them to heal over night, but time will do it's job--
Posted Sun Nov 01, 2009 11:17 AM
It ended afte 2.5 years - she kept treating me like shit too, then i found messages on her fone etc. Dont think she was actually doing anything but I got treat so bad.. he's learnt i now. now this has shocked her into seeing what she did to me.
My advice mate is time.. I try to keep myself busy.. I do have a new GF and tbh only 2 people have passed comment taht it was very quick... but in my case the love had been dying for a while now...
My new GF isnt a rebound thing.. the old love was dead and burried... We still talk and its slightly awkward at first bt we're ok about it now. Although I do keep talking minimal that i can, fo now anyway, in the future when things change it may increase but we will see.
I stil lthink of my ex... but I dont miss her... what i miss is my old house, my own space and some of the things we used to do.
Its strange - having met a new person after not having done so for so long.. having to start again gettin to know each other and steps of how far we can go etc...
All i can say mate is keep yourself busy - u neve rknow whats around the corner and most of all - keep you chin up, remember you did nothing wrong