When a pet passes away ...
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 02:48 AM
I'm wondering what would be the best thing to do to help ease her grief .
(1) Go out & find a cute lil baby kitten & surprise her with it , or ...........
(2) Wait until she mentions wanting another to do this .
I'm a guy (yes that rumor is true ) & I could use a female prospective here , or a guys who's been in the spot I'm in now . Any insight would be kindly appreceated & than~Q for your thoughts .
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 03:14 AM
I recommend you wait a little bit... Let her morn and grieve her loss. Not too long though... Just let her know that when she feels ready she should get another cat... Go to the pound with her...
I really think going and picking one out for her now is not so good....
And I don't think you need wait for her to mention it either...
Talk to her about...
And tell her that animal lover easysmiles sends her a hug and an empathetic shoulder to cry on... I lost my last cat a year and a half ago and two dogs in 5 years that never saw 5 years old - the last one never made it to 2...
a very sympathetic
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 03:39 AM
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 03:45 AM
mikey looks devilishly cute ...
personally, i wouldn't want one immediately because it would seem like a replacement, when nothing can replace that cat. she just needs to be sad about it for a bit. getting another cat is a way of trying to stop her being sad (because it's devastating when someone we love is sad), but she just has to be sad for a bit. it won't be forever.
later, you can get another cat when it can be loved and appreciated for itself. you will know when the time is right.
good luck .... boo!
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 04:06 AM
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Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 09:24 AM
I'm so sorry to hear it Mr Q... animals are very much a part of the family...
I lost a cat recently... in one of the theartre chairs...
I was so upset I had to buy another the very next day...
The thought of an empty bowl and not seeing her in her favourite resting place was too much... I had to replace her...
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 09:57 AM
Taken directly from Rainbow Bridge site:
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 09:57 AM
Five years old? That's awful young. We're with you guys in spirit.
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 10:01 AM
By the same token, I do like to have fun with newbies at the shelters that don't know my sense of humor and show up with a cook book and start checking for weight and tenderness.
Posted Mon Nov 02, 2009 05:15 PM
I think you will be able to tell when shes ready for another kitty. Right now prolly wouldnt be a good time.