Can't Cum During Oral
Posted Wed Nov 04, 2009 04:41 PM
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Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 11:24 AM
Lol this is very true. It's not that I can't cum, it's just that I think she has confidence issues when it comes to oral so she thinks if I don't cum in 10 minutes she's doing it wrong
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 11:40 AM
i dont masturbate at all really, sometimes i can cum from oral sometimes i can't. i prefer when i don't to be honest.
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:31 PM
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 03:02 PM
Why do you prefer when you don't?
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 05:04 AM
tried to sound as respectful as i can from that.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 11:38 AM
For the other guys that couldn't, or didn't want oral the whole time, it was a nice warm up that led to other stuff where cumming wasn't a problem.
Posted Tue Nov 10, 2009 04:14 AM
What helped? I stopped masturbating for two weeks. I also showed her another video on how to give a blowjob that some pornstar made, one of the tips was for the grl to run her fingernails over a guys balls while sucking.. OMG that felt good. I busted my biggest load ever all over her chest.
Stop masturbating/having sex so much and see if that helps.
Posted Tue Nov 10, 2009 02:16 PM
When my guy and I first started doing sexual stuff, it took me a while before I started to learn what exactly he likes. There was a long period of time at the beginning of our relationship when I could suck his dick for what felt like forever, and he just wouldn't cum. I thought my blow jobs were just totally lame and weren't turning him on. I mean, he was hard, but my mouth and neck got tired way before he was even close to cumming. It was really frustrating for me, and I started to feel really down about it and just stopped wanting to give him blow jobs because I figured, "Well, it's not like I'll be able to get him off anyway, so why bother?"
But with a lot of reassuring from him that what I was doing felt good - and with some coaching (i.e. him being more vocal and directing me and telling me specifically when I was doing something that felt really great), I started to learn what he likes in particular and what it is that gets him off.
Now I freaking love giving him blow jobs, and I can make him cum every time (if he lets me follow through and doesn't stop me to fuck me before he cums in my mouth). I know how he likes to be licked, how fast or slow I should go, that he loves it when I deepthroat him (which I can do now when I wasn't able to at first and would just gag).
My advice is to be explicit when you're guiding her. Be supportive and reassuring so that you don't turn her off to giving you blow jobs. When she's doing something you really like - for example, she has your cock a couple inches in her mouth and is swirling her tongue just around your head - tell her exactly what you're enjoying. Say something like, "When you swirl your tongue like that it feels so amazing." She'll start to pick up on what you like, and she might be able to get you off with a blow job with some practice. From what I can tell - and I'm no expert as I've only been with one guy - it seems like every guy is going to be different, so something that she may have done before that worked like a charm every time isn't going to necessarily work for you.
Posted Tue Nov 10, 2009 02:56 PM
Posted Tue Dec 01, 2009 09:36 PM
There is also anal play that can contribute to it all.
By the time the giver envelops the cock in his/her mouth, it should be 15-20 minutes into it. The key is not to rush it. Even if you have had the cock all the way in your mouth, go back to licking and stroking if the energy for an orgasm is not there yet.
When an orgasm becomes possible, you will both know it and move rapidly toward the erupting conclusion.
It is the same with a pussy. Take your time. Let the energy build on its own. This is the way the one receiving can enjoy oral sex to the max. And then there is always the fun of the receiver becoming the giver.
Posted Tue Dec 01, 2009 11:13 PM
Posted Fri Dec 04, 2009 01:04 AM
for starters the first two girls that gave me blowjobs never made me cum with one, we always just switched to sex, but then like 3 years ago i met my current girlfriend in one of my classes at school and things changed dramatically. for one thing her technique was much better. another thing i learned that different types of erections call for different solutions. sometimes i would so turned on i would get one where i felt like id cum quickly if we had sex, those are perfect for blowjobs, with those im taken care of in like 3-4 minutes. another thing i learned is when standing up, if i was having trouble coming i would start to clench my leg muscles back and forth almost as a light thrusting which in turn made the sensation more closely resemble sex. finally as much as i like standing i realized that something about being on my knees but with the rest of my body upright that makes the sensations more intense, you should see if any of that helps