Forms of birth control....
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 11:47 AM
anyone got any ideas?
Any help would be greatly appreciated...
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:32 PM
my girlfriend is just really stubborn and refuses to go to the gyn. she lied to me and told me she went once when she was 17. i found out that was bullshit from her mother, she's never went and shes going to be 21 soon. i harrass her on a daily basis about it. she says it "hurts" but how would she know if she never went...
it's really childish and one of the biggest turn offs. i feel like im dating a 13 year old sometimes, i mean its like the #1 most important thing to do for a sexually active woman right?? she's had 1 STD exam when i had a false positive for chlamydia lol...
while i want her to get on birth control, for obvious reasons, besides 2 broken condoms resulting in $100 in plan B and a fucked up period for the next few months, she's completely resistant. her mom convinced her to go since her periods are 10 days long and shes on a 33 day cycle.
what are her "health reasons". my girlfriend pulled that shit for the past 2 years and there are no health reasons that are verifiable by a doctor- because she's never went! she claimed blood clots and ovarian cysts. and i believed it until i found out she was self-diagnosed. i even have a self-treatment- STFU!!!
she should make an appointment with her Gyn. if she doesnt have one, planned parenthood gives free check ups and advice for that sorta stuff (they actually work for donations to their non profit organization). they will give her a check up and discuss the best options with you guys, taking into account her conditions that would render certain types as not being an option.
i'd recommend an IUD personally. if i was a woman, i'd want one. no pills to remember or anything like that. plus, they make ones that last up to 5 years i believe.
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:32 PM
Posted Thu Nov 05, 2009 12:54 PM
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 10:08 AM
If you mean over the counter, latex is your only effective option.
If you've had 2 break, maybe you should use some lube to put them on or try a different brand/size.
Most condom failures are a result of improper penile application.
And when I want to be sure, I use condoms and spermicide together.
I don't believe she'll be able to get birth control from a general practitioner.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 10:24 AM
A 99% success rate says a lot about vasectomy procedure. You may have to look for a doc that sees your side of the picture and is convinced you never want kids. You and your mate need to be on the same page.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 07:43 PM
I really can't stand it when men expect women to take drugs that alter her normal hormonal balance and wreak havoc on her body just so he can have sex with her worry free. If you don't want children, it's YOUR responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen. Learn how to put condoms on the right way, use more lube, use spermicide along with the condoms, or try polyurethane condoms. It's said they allow more heat to transfer through the membrane.
Or like G said, get yourself fixed.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 08:13 PM
Not going to the gyno is your girlfriend's decision. It's a bad one, but it's hers. If you have a problem with it, don't have sex with her or get out of the relationship. I find it hard to believe that you don't want to use condoms with someone who isn't careful about STDs. I know when my guy and I were tested last, and I know what sexual activity we've had since our last tests.
My guy doesn't complain about condoms. We discussed our options. We agreed that condoms are best for us right now. I know it's not his favorite method of birth control, but I appreciate his attitude. I don't really like them either. I have tried to repay him by buying several types of condoms and helping him find the ones that feel best to him. (BTW, Trojan Ecstasy gets his vote.) We also discussed how we would handle a pregnancy. It's our decision, not my decision.
Basically, if you don't want the responsibility of a child, don't date one or have one. Better yet, take responsibility for yourself.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 08:39 PM
I choose to not take hormonal birth control because of the history of breast cancer in my family. The only non-hormonal birth control that I'm aware of is the copper IUD which would be absolutely perfect for me, except that you can't get an IUD until after you have a child (which completely defeats the purpose for me).
As far as I'm concerned, no condom=no sex.
Posted Fri Nov 06, 2009 09:03 PM
Posted Sat Nov 07, 2009 08:25 PM
what happens if your body dont agree with it and your stuck with it for 5years!!!
I've had problems with loads of different pills...
Microlite...was fine for ages but that started setting discharge (not the normal white colour) and messed up periods
Overnette...month long period!!! with only a few days for a break!!!
Yasmin...totally lost my sex drive and didnt even realise i'd lost it!!!
Norida (micropill)...was fine for awhile but that started getting my period really late and discharge and all that!!!
Im convinced theres something in the pill that dont agree with me but need to go talk to a doc cause i need something done!!!