Tips for making out and such...
Posted Mon Jan 09, 2006 11:46 PM
I love love LOVE kissing and making out. The guy I'm seeing has had previous sexual relationships and even though he doesn't enjoy it much, he's really into foreplay and presses me for it sometimes. I'm not ready for this yet and I was wondering if there was anything I could do such as kissing or touching certain places to make him feel good without really doing anything.
Posted Mon Jan 09, 2006 11:57 PM
You could give him a handjob, that's basically just masturbating for him.
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:02 AM
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:03 AM
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:08 AM
With a little practice, you may be able to give him a handjob and have a good kissing session at the same time. Ooooh.
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:13 AM
1) Get some counseling. You need to deal with your mistreatment for all aspects of your life, not just sex. I also was beaten as a child, and I know it doesn't go away by itself.
2) Tell your boyfriend. He won't understand what's comfortable and uncomfortable for you if he doesn't know what's behind it. Then you two can very gradually start to do things together and see where your comfort zone is.
3) The hand job suggestion still stands. You will be in control. You will know what's comfortable.
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 12:32 AM
My ex-boyfriend once held his hand over mine and made me do that to him. I cried and cried and he wouldn't stop. I'm not comfortable enough with this guy yet anyway.
It sucks just because every sexual type thing I've experienced (other than masturbation) has been forced.
I've told my guy friend about my ex and also about my near-rape. He has never tried anything with me except the one time he tried to feel me up. This only happened because we were intensely making out. When we kiss, he likes to put his hand up my shirt and rub my stomach which I like even though it tickles This time his hand went a little higher...I wanted him to...but I didn't want to feel bad after so I didn't let him.
I know how much I like it when he rubs my stomach...so maybe he would like it if I did the same to him?
I'm really shy and like I said I've never had any "real" sexual experience except for something that was forced. It's actually kind of nice to be able to start over and actually feel good with someone.
Gah...my life is so complicated!
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 01:01 AM
If the guy isn't comfortable going at your pace, find another guy. Get some treatment to help you get things straightened out. THere are a lot of other girls here with similar experiences.
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 03:14 AM
Posted Tue Jan 10, 2006 03:54 AM