Posted Fri Jan 13, 2006 03:22 AM
I can't get off during intercourse due to decreased sensitivity in my penis. I hammered away for like 45 minutes just focusing on trying to get me off, with absolutely no success. This was in the missionary position too, after a 5 minute handjob to prep me up. SHe basically told me to do whatever it takes. No luck for me though.
My girlfriend says she can't go because it hurts her. SHe says that in the past couple of months, she has smelled a little different, and she also has pain, like a sore or tear inside of her vagina, and I hurt her when we have sex. The pain blocks the orgasm. I wonder how true this is, because I watched her pleasure herself with a massive dildo, without any problems a few days ago. At the same time though, she may be able to do that because she knows just how to do it without hurting herself. She does not have any stds, and neither do i. We both donate blood, so we each know this as fact.
What can be done? Is this an infection? Can an infection cause sex to hurt, unless performed exactly to certain specifications? Or is it possible that she is trying not to hurt my feelings. On that note though, saying the sex is shit doesn't exactly make me feel all that great. But I need to know as much as possible, so things can improve.
I think she is partly frustrated that I don't get off, and partly frustrated that she doesn't, which turns our sex life into garbage. I can at least use my mouth and fingers well, but its just not the same. Any help would be great. Thanks.
Posted Fri Jan 13, 2006 07:08 PM
Sounds like an infection to me. She should go to a doctor. That's the first step. The two of you can't work on your sex life until that problem is solved. Nothing will be right until that's taken care of.
Posted Fri Jan 13, 2006 08:27 PM
Posted Fri Jan 13, 2006 08:35 PM
Posted Fri Jan 13, 2006 09:57 PM
For the moment, focus on improving her health. The change in smell especially is a sign that she should have a gynecological checkup. A sexually active woman should have regular gyn checkups anyway.
Posted Sat Jan 14, 2006 01:42 PM
Posted Sun Jan 15, 2006 06:45 PM
I will have to try that! Thanks for the comments people!