My husband seems to believe that ejaculating controls his daily energy levels, depression and ability to train at the gym. Not to mention that 1/2 the time it leaves him writhing in physical pain [something about a type of gas in his right testicle that moves after ejaculation??]. Last year he has a cystoscopy and, in my eyes, didnt have the best explanation from his doctor. He seems to have a lot of fears about his male reproductive system which he analyses down to the amount of protein and b vitamins in his diet. All I can do is suggest seeing a new doctor, a hormone doctor or say a male reproductive doctor but it all comes back to 'I know what is best for me because I've been doing this for years .. I just have to be in control of it all'.
The build up of our relationship was long distance and filled with hot phone calls, emails, letters and promises. He has had a sparatic sex life over the years. I came from a 3 times a week sex life, then to living on my own being able to masturbate all day, and now here I am with a husband who feels bad about himself because he cant fuck me. We are also living with extended family members so I cant really go around masturbating all day like I used to before moving in.
All this boils down to: Is it normal for non-ejaculation to control your life???????????? and if not, what doctor does he need to consult? I have no idea because as a woman we get OBGYNs.
Im a newlywed, im sex deprived, and I have a long history of cheating. If he pushes me away for much longer im bound to wander to the may others out there. Its a terrible thing to say, but to have gone from a passionate inseperable existance to our current state is hellish. I want my husband to be functional, energetic, and happy but if this is the cost I don't know how long I can stand it.
Thanks for reading and let me know your thoughts!
This post has been edited by MrsMarie: Mon Dec 07, 2009 07:03 AM