To tell or not to tell? I found out about a secret...
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 01:31 AM
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 12:52 PM
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 01:50 PM
Whether or not he talks to her isn't really important to me. I also stay in touch with ex-bfs. I'm really only concerned with the emotional aspect - whether or not he's still attached to her emotionally, and thus not emotionally available to me. This could explain why he's reserved about his feelings, or he could just naturally be that way (his claim).
After sleeping on it, I'm inclined to tell him that I found out about it. I came across a reference to this information unintentionally, and then put two and two together. After that, I did a little more research to confirm my suspicions. Maybe I will say, "I was .... when I came across -- information, so I know about this, and it makes me feel insecure." My thinking is that this would let me get it off my chest, not put too much pressure on him, and spin the direction of the conversation to my feelings instead of making him feel guilty about it. What do you think?
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 02:59 PM
thats a good idea u have. Once your bring it up, if he gets all defensive about his stance with her and pins the blame on you 'snooping' then u got a fair view on where he stands regarding her
if he does comfort u tho, not really caring (at first anyways) that you came across this in the matter u did, then u should know u got nothing to worry about
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 04:26 PM
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 05:57 PM