How To Have Anal Sex a guide to successful backdoor action
Posted Fri Dec 11, 2009 02:05 PM
ok me and my girlfriend starting doing anal about 6 months ago and during the first couple months we ran into almost every problem associated with it. some of the things i say will be gross but then again depending on how you look at it the entire concept of anal sex could be disgusting.
first things first, before you worry about things like external hygiene you need to focus on the accident prevention, this is one problem i havnt personally run into, if i had id probasbly never try anal sex again. anyways, successful anal sex starts with a high fiber diet for the female or other recipient, its gross to think about but if she has a solid movement about 2-4 hours before having anal sex then the anal cavity will be free of any debris and will be ideal for penetration
next make sure she takes the time to properly clean herself to minimize the risk of transmitting bacteria and other things to you, a good shower will do the trick.
now preparation. it will probably take a lot of play before she reaches a point where successful anal penetration can occur. its like 90% mental, she has to be really into it for it work, she has to be very comfortable and open with that area. now from personal experience my girlfriend requires a bit of pregaming so to speak. what i do is go down on her for a while, all the while using a lubed up butt plug which is a key item to have, what this does is gently stretches the opening without causing any pain, generally it works much better than a finger. you should do that until you reach the point where her hole is dilated on its own, that is the key to a successful penetration. a sidenote, do not use anything you used on her ass i.e. finger/toy/tongue/etc. to use on her vagina, because then she runs the risk of contracting a UTI or something else from cross contamination. it is important to seperate those two areas
lube is another very important factor. i hear a lot of people talk about using KY and astroglide or something like that, that doesnt work for my girlfriend as she is kind of sensitive to certain lubes. while walking around dupont circle we went to a sex store that caters mostly to gay guys and i asked their advice, they recommended a product called Sex Grease, it has worked flawlessly for us since day one. you need to make sure you use a enough lube because you want everything to manuever very smoothly.
penetration. its better to have her choose the position because after all shes the one with dealing with a delicate balance of sensations. my girlfriend prefers to be on her back with me holding her legs because that leaves her free to play with herself while i thrust. she also like to be on top sometimes and occasionally enjoys it doggystyle but on her back is her favorite. you have to penetrate slowly and gently, once inside wait a moment to allow her to adjust to it. after that start moving slowly and very gradually build up speed until you reach a speed you both enjoy, if you have prepared appropriately then she should be experiencing no pain at all. my girlfriend plays with herself constantly during anal sex which is the key to her experiencing an orgasm. she says that she always cums incredibly hard from anal sex and i have seen a noticeable difference in her reactions. so despite what you may have heard, women can not only enjoy anal sex but they can experience intense full body orgasms as a result.
afterwards. now for the most part i am a clean freak, but i am a freak in general so i have never used a condom during anal sex, i always cum inside her when we have anal, one of the good things about anal sex for my girlfriend and i is that we almost always orgasm simultaneously. i have a towel handy during the foreplay to wipe away excess lube etc. she uses this to catch the cum afterwards so it never accidentally travels to her vagina. immediately after finishing i always go and wash myself and urinate, which is rather effective in ridding the area of any bacteria. then the two of us shower together and then watch some adult swim and eat snacks, both of us satisfied. we try never to do anal more frequently than once a week, if you do it too often she runs the risk of getting permanently stretched out down there, which will obviously lead to problems
i hope this has been helpful
Posted Sun Jan 24, 2010 09:59 AM
My wife found anal sex very painful until she asked me to do it faster and yes, harder. Slow anal sex was extremely uncomfortable for her but when I picked up the pace quite a bit she found it very enjoyable and used to actually come back to me and beg me to do it more often.
We found anal sex in the shower quite enjoyable. We'd take our time kissing and playing under the hot water and once we were warmed up, she'd spread a little hair conditioner on me, turn around, bend over and invite me in. This was always my favorite because it was warm and loving and we got to play afterward as I gently washed her off from head to toe when we were finished. Boy, I miss those days.
BTW - she didn't like KY either. A good hair conditioner or hand lotion was her favorite lube to get me started. I have a unique trait in that I come quickly, but I can do it every couple minutes for hours without losing my erection, and once I came the first time, I could hump her as fast or as hard as she wanted without any fear of friction. Semen was the best lube we ever found and the fact that I'd come frequently just made it even better because I'd be self lubing and could go as long as she wanted me in there, one time almost 40 minutes.
Take your time, experiment and let her tell you what she wants or needs and you'll be back in there so often you'll start missing her pussy
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