does she like me?
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 03:51 PM
Was out for a friends birthday, having a few drinks, 2 girls sit down opposite, i instantly recognised one of them but couldnt think why, then it clicked.
She went to the bar i went and said hi, she recognised me but too didnt know where from, i explained where blah blah, had a quick chat, she had to go, but asked for my number.
Didnt expect much but she text me the next day, had a text, arranged to meet up on the weds, went for a drink to get to know each other a little.
After that droped her off at home. She text me an hour later with a bit of a jokey text about the night about something id said, very light hearted.
Sent a couple of texts asking when i next get a drink with her , she said soon.
couple of "flirty" texts from me with a good response from her.
text her friday, she didnt reply till the next day, i was busy at the gym didnt notice, then she text again asking if i wanted to go for a drink.. so i agreed. but couldnt till half 3, she could but only till half 4, i left gym early at 2 so not to miss my chance to see her.
went for a drink for longer than she said she could but at no point did she seem to want to leave and always asked if i wanted another drink. stayed for a drink til half 5 ish.
she hinted she likes the cinema but no one ever takes her. well i took it as a hint..
so yesterday i text her asking if she wanted to go, took a while to reply, but said what do you want to watch? but no yes answer.
i replied but she never replied, i text her again today asking if were going or not, she said yeah we can do..
i text back saying what we watching but she never replied.
A friend said shes just trying to play it cool but i dunno, i never get much chance with girls, especially beautiful ones.
I dont want to come across needy or anything, but i like her and can see her as someone i could really like if i got to know her.
Bad point, shes recently single within last 2 weeks. and ive only known her a week.
Can you see my problem? or am i just reading into things too much and go with the flow? no i bug her with texts or wait for her? etc etc
any help appreciated guys and girls thanks
Posted Mon Jan 04, 2010 04:07 PM
The cinema thing, I actually think she was considering going that night with you when you were drinking for a bit longer. (Oh and the fact she stayed longer means she was firstly enjoying herself to conform to her 4:30 timestamp or was prioritizing you...or wanted to stay. So all good there).
It is clear she is pacing herself and the events surrounding a possible relationship. Most likely due to a recent breakup a few weeks before and probably not wanting to go down that route too quickly without being 100% sure.
Hopefully she texts back, wait a week even if you dont hear from her. If she hasnt replied in a week send her another one, say hey and keep it light and ask about the cinema or some other place. Hopefully things will get rolling from there. If not, well, you either elave it or make sure to 'accidently' bump into her and test her reaction.
Oh and, should you meetup for another date, try and get a kiss or some confirmation that things are headed in the right direction. Else you might become a friend.
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Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 05:08 PM
so see how things go.
Posted Thu Jan 07, 2010 05:28 PM
And who said "no pain, no gain"...
This post has been edited by Olive: Thu Jan 07, 2010 05:29 PM
Posted Sun Jan 10, 2010 11:03 PM
And who said "no pain, no gain"...
I've got to agree here with the painful cliche .
Don't be too bold, but let her know what your intentions are. Give her something to think about, but don't overstep your boundaries and intimidate her.
Or... you could just "go with the flow" and see where whatever is happening between you guys takes you. I couldn't tell you which would be a better suggestion, because it's entirely up to you, my friend. Feel out this next date, and decide from there where you want the ship to steer.
Posted Mon Jan 18, 2010 06:04 AM
she came round mine on saturday had a coffee, watched a film and a bit of tv till 1am-ish. she met my father. nothing happened between us though, then yesterday she came to my sisters met them and again nothing happened, mainly because the opportunity didn't arise. But i dont want to become just a friend but i dont want to rush into anything as i find rushing into these things ruins it all. any advice or thoughts?
Posted Tue Jan 19, 2010 03:04 AM
Do not think what the best should be for what moment... That's an impossibility and it only works in hindsight. Every step you take in your life is a decision, and you have to make it before you take the next step; you'll end up like a statue if you don't decide.
Now, think about what you want and just do what you have to do to get it...
This post has been edited by Olive: Tue Jan 19, 2010 03:05 AM
Posted Wed Jan 20, 2010 08:10 PM
she was going to come round one night this week but plans she had took longer and by the time she was free and done her self blah blah it was a bit late so i agreed fair enough work tomorrow, i told her i was looking forward to it though, and she said we can another night, but i asked if she wants to do something this weekend but she said she doesnt know what shes doing, i have a slight feeling shes playing hard to get, and/or is very shy/unconfident.
Her ex cheated on her big time and i feel this can hurt a girl? correct or am i wrong?
also when shes with me around people i know shes very untalkative and keeps herself to herself and also when were alone she does seem abiit unconfident now i think about it. I dunno weather she is or just doesn tlike me. but she seems mature enough to just not want to spend time with me?
Am i just confusing matters and should just go with the flow?
Posted Sat Jan 23, 2010 07:37 AM
1# dont be needy - makes you look like you have no friends, she may like you and want to go out with you but if your acting needy this will make her think you wanna be friends or just freak her out
2# dont try be friends first. I have tried the friends thing a few times and it doesnt really work out. Next thing you know she will say "its just best if we are friends"