Ex Girlfriend can't last long
Posted Sat Jan 09, 2010 05:48 AM
I was wondering if anyone could help me out with this problem one of my ex had. we would get intimate and everything would be going fine until she gets on top. she would ride me for about 2 minutes then start slowing down and eventually just stop. afterwards i can't even move her she doesn't want me to even touch her, says her body feels nasty, and then asks me to finish myself off onto a piece of tissue. I thought maybe its because she had an orgasm but I found out that she never had an orgasm, even with any of her ex's, she just loses the feel or pleasure. I was thinking maybe its my penis shape, mine kind of curves upwards.
I've had sex with different girls after her and did not have the same problem.
I was just wondering if anyone has had this problem in any of their relationships. Any advice on how to solve it would be great because i am actually going to see that girl again this week and hopeing to get a better sexual experience.
Posted Sat Jan 09, 2010 06:44 AM
Posted Sat Jan 09, 2010 06:04 PM
This is clearly a psychological thing, especially the "says her body feels nasty" part is a huge red flag to me. A lot of women have some kind of trauma from previous partners who are not always perfect to say the least. To me it seems possible that somebody did something bad to her while in this position, made a bad comment or worse. What I would do is I would avoid that position and GENTLY try to fix the issue. However, you must remember that referring to a trauma always makes her recall it in her mind and would cause extremely unpleasant feelings in her, resistance and aggresion towards you. But if you always came on tissues with her and she never has orgasms that would mean that her erotic life had been badly damaged by some jerk and she neeeds professional help.
Posted Sat Jan 09, 2010 06:16 PM
Posted Sat Jan 09, 2010 11:05 PM
Your profile says you're South Korean. Was the girl? I lived there for a few years (안녕!). There are huuuuuge cultural differences regarding sexuality. One of my Korean friends was jokingly teased about being a slut because she had kissed six men. Imagine what the reaction would have been if she'd had sex!
Posted Sun Jan 10, 2010 08:08 AM
ahaha hello to u to meow
yea we're both korean but raised in the u.s.
hmmm but i think you might be right about the cultural difference. Her family were all born in korea and she and her siblings are the first to be born in another country.
her family is very close to her and treat her as a child ( she is the youngest) so i maybe this has got something to do with it.
however i had other girlfriends who had similar backgrounds as her and they did not have the same problem, hmm actually some were just plain dirty.
mothx you might be right about this being a "psychological thing". she had a very abusive boyfriend in the past. she doesn't go into details with me, but from what she told me he seems like the devil. in our past relationship i tried to being gentle because i thought maybe i was being too aggressive but after sex she doesn't even want to cuddle. from my past relationships most girls prefer to stay physically connected but she wanted me a mile away.
i'm not her boyfriend or hope to be but she is a good friend of mine and if this is a serious problem of hers then i want to help her.
or i could just be ugly and digusting to her in which case SCREW HER! but seriously anyone who had a previous experience like this and solved it any advice would be great thx
Posted Sun Jan 10, 2010 10:28 AM
However, if you tried to solve this kind of nonsense and were successful, I would feel much better I guess one way to go would be to try doing everything different. If the boyfriend blocked the cowgirl in her mind, every time you attempt it you trigger the release of bad memories and her mind goes into "error.error.error" mode Try many different things, some of them will not have been blocked and probably will be enjoyed. Try giving her more control over what is going on - let that be her choice and her wish. That's what I would do if I had to deal again with the abused Russian girl I had met
This post has been edited by mothx: Sun Jan 10, 2010 10:31 AM
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