Posted Wed Jan 20, 2010 05:29 PM
this might be in the wrong section but hey ho lol
my partner and i tried anal for the first time this evening
at first i found it really really painfull
but he got me to perserver and i actually quite enjoyed it
what are everyone elses opinions and experiances???
is there anyway to stop it being painful at first ??
Posted Wed Jan 20, 2010 05:32 PM
Posted Wed Jan 20, 2010 05:33 PM
Try having him press his thumb and rub your anus in doggy for a while and when he feels you relax he can enter... gradually add another finger...
Personally I find using a toy myself with a vibe on my clit prepares me..
Also when he enters YOU take control of the entry and RELAX!!
It is important.
I only do anal when I am really really turned on.
Posted Wed Jan 20, 2010 07:39 PM
There's only so much you can do going in for your first time or coming back to it after time off. You might have better results using a toy on yourself during foreplay. You'll know best how loose things are down there, plus having full control will reduce pain and hopefully make you more comfortable to the process. The more you do, the better it becomes, so practice!
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Posted Fri Jan 22, 2010 10:11 PM
Which ass nerve would that be?
Posted Sat Jan 23, 2010 06:03 AM
I like that pain. I odn't use lube, my pussy make enough for me to get fucked in the ass with.
The pain makes my eyes roll back and I gasp for air. I love that feeling.
Key is to relax and breathe.
Posted Sat Jan 23, 2010 07:16 AM
#1 - Work on having your anus played with, lightly rubbing it. Inserting a finger and working it slowly with lube which brings me to.
#2 - USE LUBE! This is a must as the anus does not create a self lubrication to make ease of entry.
#3 - Relax, it can some times be hard to do as the mind has had years of conditioning thinking that was a one way door. Keep it up and things will slowly become easier.
last but not least.
#4 - Don't give up if you want to try to experience it once without pain before writing the entire event off as a never to be again. After some time, proper anal play, and finally getting fucked it will turn into a breeze and might be the most or at least maybe second most enjoyable thing you've ever experienced.
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Posted Mon Jan 25, 2010 01:24 PM
we've been successful a couple of times years ago, but again, that was with alcohol etc. bottom line, you can't force it if its not happenin'. wait til next time.