Looking for lessons.....
Posted Sun Jan 24, 2010 10:48 AM
No, I'm not a 20 something using this as a pickup line. I'm over 50 and just separated from a woman I've been with since we were 15. She is the only person I've ever been with.
Unfortunately, we haven't had much sex in the last 30 years. Intercourse on only one occasion that I can remember in the last ten years and the rest were BJs to keep me home while she ran off and had affairs with other men. Long story, don't want to bore you with TMI, but I had legitimate reasons for staying that long and suffering in celibacy.
Anyway, celibacy time is over because she just cut me loose and said if I ever want sex again, I need to find someone else to play with. Fair, but now came to the realization I have less sexual skills than a teenager. I honestly don't have a clue what to do
So here's the deal
I need someone to not just teach me the skills and techniques, but the back story too. The etiquette. The behavioral things. What's appropriate to say and do and all that. How do you know what someone is thinking and what to try next?
We're talking real beginner stuff leading up to hopefully more advanced stuff.
I'm hoping to find some medical professional who can bill this stuff to my health care program. I'm sure it's done all the time but I just don't have the connections.
Seriously. There has to be a way to do this.
I live in the metro Boston area and will travel anywhere in Mass, NH or Maine, or even VT once or twice a week for these lessons.
I'm open to ANY ideas. My urgency is I have a nerve disorder and the doctors tell me I have no more than 2-3 years to live, so it's either do this NOW or fade away into oblivion.
I'm actually in reasonably good health and physically, I'm working hard to get stronger every day.
I don't smoke, I don't drink and I don't do drugs. I've been with one female my entire life and have no STD or other communicable diseases and I ask that you be clean too.
I don't care how old you are, I don't care what you look like. I don't care if you're skinny or fat. I don't care what your bust size is.
All I care about is that you are patient and a good teacher.
You can reply here but I'd prefer if you sent me an PM or an email.
Posted Sun Jan 24, 2010 12:12 PM
I would suggest that you go out though and speak to women, develop a connection with them. similarly, integrate yourself with us here.
We don't bite and it will perhaps get your confidence up a little for the basics, however I would say that sex is an inbuilt thing to us and there are no rights and wrongs to discuss.
Go with the flow in any relationship, light flirting is the way to start and you will receive back the signals that tell you what is acceptable next.
I wouldnt advise having sex for the sake of it, you must be wanting to do it with that person as it can be a bitter experience having sex for the sake of it when you arent really that into the person.
Posted Sun Jan 24, 2010 03:13 PM
I'm still trying to keep a good attitude about it, and will look around, but the phrase "you have the rest of your life to learn" and so forth really doesn't have much meaning for me any more.
This post has been edited by OldFriend2010: Sun Jan 24, 2010 03:14 PM
Posted Sun Jan 24, 2010 03:18 PM
Posted Mon Jan 25, 2010 11:42 AM
Nothing ventured, nothing gained
Posted Mon Jan 25, 2010 03:38 PM
MODERATOR - please lock and delete this thread.