Problems getting it up during sex help? lol
Posted Tue Mar 09, 2010 09:45 AM
So I've been with my gf for about 2 weeks now and we've tried to have sex 3 times. Whenever I look at porn I get it up instantly and very hard. But when I'm trying to have sex with my gf I can't get it up at all! I've tried having her jerk me a little or give me oral to get it up but when I try and push it up myself I end up wanting to bust then after that there's no possible way of getting it remotely hard. What's weird is that I bust without it even being hard!
I have no idea what's wrong with me but I'd like to fix this problem so I can loose my virginity and make my gf happy. lol
Help please? lol
Posted Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:18 AM
Posted Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:38 AM
Here's some info that might help. I probably masturbate twice a week, ejaculate 5 times total a week. I take 30mg adderall XR maybe 3 times a week to study. I definitely have premature ejaculation but I'm working on that separately. I weigh 130lbs.
Hopefully I can fix this problem soon. Thanks for the help!
I do have anxiety to perform well but she told me she really doesn't care about this problem. She said it will happen when it should but I'd still like to fix this problem.
By the way, I smoke marijuana nightly, 1-2 cigarettes a day, and drink heavily every weekend.
This post has been edited by bob96: Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:47 AM
Posted Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:48 AM
Posted Tue Mar 09, 2010 04:37 PM
I will suggest the use of a pump, penis pumping gives you an instant erection. The problem with pumps vary, one must learn to use it in moderation. For your case though the pump would be instantanious so you wouldn't really have to worry about prolonged use because you would only be using it for about a minute or two.
Talk to your doctor, believe it or not they actually do reccomend the use of them for erectile disfunction. If you do happen to travel down the pumping road, make sure to purchase one with a gauge so you do not over pump yourself and cause servere disfigurement to your penis.
P.S. You can also try using a cock ring, they actually help out alot by trapping the blood into your penis and helps reduce premature ejaculation.
Posted Wed Mar 10, 2010 06:14 AM
By the way smoking, drinking, recreational and prescribed drugs can hurt your sex life and do what you describe.(no lecture here...you decide)
This post has been edited by edopho: Wed Mar 10, 2010 06:20 AM
Posted Thu Mar 11, 2010 04:00 PM
I think that the problem comes from the irregular use of adderall XR and being nervous. What confuses me the most is when I watch porn I'm completely firm but when I'm getting good oral it's not near what it should be at. I'm just completely confused about this whole situation and it's been bugging me for too long and sometimes makes me feel miserable. I gotta fix this problem somehow and soon. lol
Posted Fri Apr 02, 2010 03:30 AM
The porn and masturbation are desensitizing you and are changing your mental frame for attraction. I guarantee if you do not watch any porn or masturbate for a week, a slight breeze will have you ready to go. Just have to let your biology reset and take over.
You don't have to cut out porn and masturbation forever, but lay off for that week from both and do it sparingly in the future.