Posted Thu Mar 11, 2010 06:56 PM
Posted Thu Mar 11, 2010 07:05 PM
My loyalty def would depend on the circumstances as a relationship is ony a good relationship when everything is good between the couple.
If I was abused etc, I'd not be loyal.
Posted Thu Mar 11, 2010 09:41 PM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 12:02 AM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 12:06 AM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 01:56 AM
And then, I know my children will always have my unconditional love. If one of them turns into an addict for instance, I would be the one who'd be looking for them all over to make sure they eat at least once a day; I would wash their clothes and I'll bath them and brush their hair if they're not able to. I will not leave them alone ever if they're in need or unhappy.
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 02:08 AM
This post has been edited by Mamon: Fri Mar 12, 2010 02:09 AM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 02:24 AM
Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 02:27 AM
agreed...anyone can justify it...but at the end of the day, cheating is cheating...
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Posted Fri Mar 12, 2010 06:19 AM
this is the same reason that i think "meant to be" or "soul mates" or "fate" is all bullshit. it just gives people an excuse to put up with shite that's no good for them. imo ....
if i'm with someone it will because i want it; no other reason is good enough.
Posted Wed Mar 31, 2010 03:08 PM
I do believe that some couples are truly meant to be and they will stay together because they want to.
Posted Wed Mar 31, 2010 11:52 PM
Posted Thu Apr 01, 2010 09:40 AM
So, being loyal under any circumstances: I guess that external circumstances - outside the relationship (new girls, attempts to seduce me, sexual offers or opportunities etc...) - wouldn´t make me want to cheat on my partner and I wouldn´t betray her in this way. However, in case of internal circumstances in the relationship itself - and I think this was the original question if I understood it correctly- I cannot speak about unconditional loyalty, I´m afraid. Of course, a legitimate question can be: "So why hadn´t you left her before you started looking for other opportunities?" - a very complicated question and many possible answers varying from one individual case to the other...
But all in all, I consider myself a loyal partner - the only exception being the case of permanent long term sexual refusal.
Posted Wed Apr 07, 2010 10:40 PM
Infidelity is one. If I'm in a relationship, at least for me, it goes without saying that both people should be faithful to each other.
The other is indifference, sexual or emotional. Like Severin said, if the other person doesn't give a rat's ass about me, I'm better off alone.
I used to think that being alone was the worst thing that could ever happen. But after hard experience, I've learned that being with someone who doesn't care about me is a lot worse.
Just my two cents worth.
Posted Tue Apr 13, 2010 12:22 AM
However, when I get into a new relationship, I would have to say I have some trust in a person. I mean, I have to trust that they won't give me cause to be mistrust them. It has nothing to do with fidelity or infidelity for me. If I put my trust into a person, then there is a certain amount of expectation that the trust placed will not be broken. I have to trust that my significant other will not betray me, nor give into temptation should temptation rear its ugly friggin' head.
Nevertheless, if there comes a point in time where I feel that I am being ignored, or I have been betrayed one too many times, then I'm gone. Plain and simple. I will not invest my time and energy trying to make something work that is so obviously not working in the first place.
Posted Tue Apr 20, 2010 03:56 AM