When we got back together after more than 15 years apart, she was a total vixen. It didn't seem to matter what time of the day it was or what day of the week it was, she just
On the days where she is in her vixen-type mood, she'll send me texts at work like "I wanna jump you tonight" or "Rrrrrr. I need you now."
When I reply back with something a little more steamy to describe how bad I want her and what I'm going to do to her, she clams right up. I'm not vulgar or insulting in my words...far from it (I fail to see how "I can't wait til I slide my tongue between your legs" is vulgar). But, she has in the past called herself "sexually retarded" and things like that because she "can't" talk dirty in bed, "can't" fathom watching porn together as a couple (says its gross and hates it) and "can't" finish me off without suddenly releasing my dick as I start to cum (almost like she fears its shooting hydrochloric acid or something). I've asked her many times about these and other issues and she just says that she can't be the person I want her to be when it comes to sex.
It's frustrating the hell out of me! I'm a very open person when it comes to trying sexual things at least once...ok, maybe twice. Her, on the other hand, is simply happy hopping on and riding me until she's done, then collapses on the bed and instantly starts to snore it seems. I'm thinking her aversion to porn comes from a bad experience in the past (her version of "porn" is the unedited episodes of Sex in the City BTW) and that, for some reason, is just unwilling to let her sexually deviant side loose...maybe out of fear that I'll lose respect for her? Who knows.
I've thought of maybe both of us going to a sex therapist to resolve these issues but I'm open to suggestions from others who have had the same type of sexually unadventurous, reserved partner.