I have something that I feel I need to fix. Sometimes when having sex with my girlfriend I cum too quick. By too quick, I say it takes me about 5-6 minutes. But this isn't every time. I'd say out of 10 times having sex, 6 times I can last longer than 12 minutes, then other 4 times I will last about 6 minutes. I've asked my girlfriend if she feels that I ejaculate too quickly, but she says "no, never". I guess she says this because I can make her cum whenever I want if I go down on her. So if I cum too fast, then I usually go down on her until she orgasms. Still though, I wish I didn't cum as quick.
I find that when I thrust deeply, it speeds up ejaculation. Especially if we're in missionary position. So the obvious solution would be to thrust shallowly, at least for some of the time. But she loves deep thrusting and doesn't seem to enjoy shallow thrusts nearly as much. I've read that when I feel like I am going to cum, then withdraw the penis and let my arousal drop a bit. But I find that when I take my penis out and put it back in after the short break, that I still feel as if I am going to cum. It's like as soon as I first feel that "I'm gonna cum" moment, that it more or less stays at the level, regardless of the break (unless the break is like 10 minutes, but that doesn't seem to be practical during sex).
So I have three questions:
1) What should I do about the deep/shallow thrusting situation?
2) What should I do about the withdrawing penis and still feeling like cumming situation?
3) To the ladies, how would you feel if half of the time your partner busted in about 5 minutes, but was amazing orally and was able to give you amazing orgasms orally?
This post has been edited by JG89: Mon Mar 22, 2010 01:58 PM