My girlfriend has never orgasmed
Posted Mon Mar 22, 2010 11:59 PM
This is where the problem lies. I haven't been with my girlfriend long, but after we had sex she confided in me that she has NEVER orgasmed. I asked her if she ever made her self orgasm while masturbating and she said she doesn't do that. While I do think she's lying about that, its still is sad.
So I went to work eating her out for about 20 minutes and got her breathing heavy and I'm pretty sure she was close, but never orgasmed... However, afterwards she was too tired to do anything else...
Maybe I'm doing something wrong, but if you guys have any suggestions on what I could do that might be able to get that first orgasm out of her.
Posted Tue Mar 23, 2010 12:08 AM
"She doesn't do that." That's the key. You're a few steps away from her having orgasms with you. She needs to learn about herself, explore herself, and stuff. She can't help you until she knows what works for her--until she knows what to help you with.
This post has been edited by Azalea: Tue Mar 23, 2010 12:09 AM
Posted Thu Apr 01, 2010 03:02 PM
Posted Sun Apr 04, 2010 12:52 AM
For her my advice would be to:
1) Examine any physical reasons for this problem - this would include talking to her doctor about it.
2) Probably exercise her PC muscle daily.
3) Become comfortable pleasuring herself.
4) Examine any psychological reasons for this if #3 isn't comfortable.
I do think that concentrating on your partners pleasure is important, but in this case it doesn't sound like her pleasure is having an orgasm right now. Talk about that with her, but in the meantime find out what her pleasure is and do that. My guess is that just holding and kissing may be what she wants, and you would be a bad lover to force orgasms on her instead.
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 07:33 AM
If she doesn't masturbate, that means she doesn't know her body well enough to feel comfortable during sex. If she's not comfortable with her own body, she will have a hard time orgasming.
The starting point would be for her to masturbate, getting to know her own body.
While it is nice that you are trying to help and you sound sweet - remember it isn't your problem. And like wingsofdesire said, don't try to force orgasms on her. It most likely will not work. Not even if you lick her for 5 hours. Give her more romance. Hold her, kiss her - and remember not to do that only when you are hoping to turn the situation into something sexual. Do it all the time. Walk up to her from behind as she's chopping onions in the kitchen, give her a big hug and gently kiss her neck. Rinse and repeat, several times a day.
If you focus more on romance and making her feel loved - she might get more into the sexual side of things, meaning she also might get more interested in the sexual side of herself. Don't focus so much on orgasms at this point.
This post has been edited by xChubbyDollx: Mon Apr 05, 2010 07:34 AM
Posted Mon Apr 05, 2010 01:16 PM