A Beginners Problem.
Posted Tue Mar 21, 2006 09:37 PM
I am new here, so bear with me and thank you for your patience. To tell you a bit about myself, I am 18 years old and I've been with my gf for almost 2 months now. So far, we've had sex twice and that's where my problem arises.
We foreplay for about 30 mins or so and then get to the business. The thing is, I have no problems keeping it up and hard for the foreplay period but once it actually comes to the act itself, I seem to lose all concentration and naturally it goes down... This is getting me rather depressed, I'm with the girl I really care for, that I love... but yet I can not keep it up. Is there something wrong with me? The odd thing is, that even though I had the same problem both times, YET both times, something would snap in my head at some point and I end up performing ANYWAY... I am seriously starting to ask myself questions...
Can any of you kind people help an unexperienced fool? Any tips, tricks or suggestions would be MORE than welcome. She assures me that it's a very common thing, and I do believe her, but I must overcome it. That is where I need your help. Many thanks in advance.
Posted Tue Mar 21, 2006 10:13 PM
Posted Tue Mar 21, 2006 10:40 PM
Posted Wed Mar 22, 2006 12:44 AM
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Posted Wed Mar 22, 2006 06:39 AM
My girlfriend was also very understanding about it (initially I think she was slightly insulted) but her reassurances gradually made me feel more confident. Maybe part of my problem was that we only had about 5 minutes of foreplay prior to "the business" as you describe it and by the time I was on top of her/she was on top of me, things were already dying down.
But time goes on and the more you try, the easier it gets. In my case, I found that once I'd actually managed to get inside her, things picked up a lot (excuse the pun). Starting off very slowly also helped - going too quickly too soon just numbed me to the point where I'd begin to lose it again. And perhaps I've become to used to porn over the years, but I also found watching helped my concenration (depends on the position you're in though).
If at first you don't succeed... etc etc
Posted Wed Mar 22, 2006 06:41 AM
Posted Wed Mar 22, 2006 07:04 AM
Well yes, but if the woman is on top, I (as a man) personally find it fairly difficult to see anything. And if I tried to use mirrors or something like that, I'd be signing my own death warrant.
Posted Wed Mar 22, 2006 07:15 AM
And there's me thinking women preferred the romance - staring into their partners eyes etc