Swinging - What's stopping you? Swinging with a difference
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 02:27 AM
Abut a year ago, as we were approaching our 22nd anniversary, we discovered the swinging scene.
We sort of fell into it by accident (a long story) and had never dreamt of trying it before, because we thought swinging meant swapping - and that is the last thing we want. Honest.
Then we realised that although lots of people are there to swap, people like us can enjoy the atmosphere of swinging venues and get our thrills from sex in the company of other couples. Until you've tried watching and being watched, you can't imagine how much it perks up your relationship, even if it was already great in the first place.
We belong to swingers' websites and have met a few other couples who enjoy roughly the same thing as us, but we can't work out why most couples of our age haven't discovered the benefits of our tame brand of swinging. Even if you only go once and only watch, visiting a swingers' club or spa is a fantastic eye-opener that every couple should experience before they get too old.
Why aren't more people doing it? More to the point - why haven't you tried it?
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 04:08 AM
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Posted Mon May 03, 2010 10:47 AM
Well for me, nothing is stopping me.
My bf and I are pretty adventurous. We started swinging with friends (ex's / hottubs / groups).
Some of it gets a little more complex on the relationship side (with ex's especially), but i've enjoyed it.
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 11:33 AM
Interesting answer. Thanks.
As naturists we were used to nudity in a non-sexual context, but in terms of sex, we used to feel like you - that it needed to be intimate and private.
Like you, we are proud of our devotion to each other, but recently decided that, rather than hide it away, we would 'celebrate' it by doing it where others could see. It's obviously a thrill to watch anybody having sex 'in the flesh', but when it involves loving couples in this context, it also becomes a great privilege, and that adds up to one hell of a great experience.
Sex in the company of other people also gives us a kick because the temptations are massive, but we know we are always able to resist them.
You sound like a cool couple and you're dead right to do what feels right for you now, but don't rule out giving it a try, a few years down the line.
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 11:38 AM
Never say never.
You don't need a partner to visit a swinging venue and see what goes on. In fact, as a single lady, I'm sure you'd be VERY welcome.
I'm not sure what it's like where you are, but here in the UK it's fine to go along to a swinging club or spa (but not necessarily a private party) and just watch while you decide what (if anything) you'd like to join in with.
Posted Mon May 03, 2010 12:46 PM
This post has been edited by Olive: Mon May 03, 2010 12:47 PM