this is a question for the guys
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 03:06 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 03:10 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 03:17 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 03:19 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 03:47 PM
I suggest talking to him, if he can not handle talking to you like an equal and like an adult then its really time to move on to a man, not a boy but a real man.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 04:11 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 05:10 PM
Personnaly, I think you are trying to turn a frog into a prince. But it is also obvious you love him.
He is the type of man who does not want to commit all the way and will never truely commit to you until he grows up. These are adult questions you are asking (and feeling) and he is not ready for them. Ask yourself this, if the "baby" question was not there, would you feel the same way? You are ready for this, he isnt.
Do Not get your tubes tied until you are ready...He is a selfish ass. If he was that commited to you, he would not only listen to you, but he would have a vasectomy!
Dump him now!
A man worthy of you is out there.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 05:47 PM
I think that your boyfriend must have quite strange / negative attitude to sex or some other sexual/psychological issues and the "baby thing" is just a silly excuse.
I agree with the previous posters that you should move on and find a partner who would bring sexual satisfaction in your life.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 05:48 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 06:12 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 06:24 PM
NEVER. Come on over, I'll give it to you good. ANY TIME you want it.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 06:24 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 09:15 PM
OMFG. When you think you have heard it all...
Next time tell him you can't get pregnant from his tongue. See what he says then.
Please, for your own sake find someone else. This guy sounds like a completely selfish [self censoring]. You are young, find a real man, seriously. You may not want a kid now, but in 10 years that may change. Lose this guy, please.
This post has been edited by Paphian Spirit: Sat May 15, 2010 09:16 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 09:46 PM
They wont tie your tubes unless you've had at least one child or you have a medical issue no matter what age you are (as far as I know, thats what Ive always been told anyways). As far as the question goes, I dont think his excuse is a good one, if your willing to get on birth control and your using condoms I dont see that you have a risk of getting pregnant, I wouldn't stay with a guy that did me that way, it doesn't really make much since as to why hes telling you that, seems like there more behind it than just that.
This post has been edited by SweetSouthernC: Sat May 15, 2010 09:47 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 10:20 PM
My suggestion is to listen to yourself--
Then this thread will be over, among other things.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 10:40 PM
This post has been edited by curiousinmo: Sat May 15, 2010 10:40 PM
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 11:25 PM
Which can KILL you - - - and others.
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 11:57 PM
I realized that if I'm stressing that much over sex, std's pregnancy scares, etc then I shouldn't be having sex.. So Now I'm waiting for the special person, not necessarily marriage but someone I truly love..and if we were to have a kid by chance and unplanned I would have the means to support that baby.
So yeah, I do think like that. But, I don't start then say nevermind. I just don't start at all
Posted Sun May 16, 2010 02:06 AM
Sounds pretty fucked up. I don't want unplanned children either, but I never have & never will turn down a gf, I always wear a condom (& I always make sure I have plenty available), even if she's on birth control. I seriously think you two need to sit down & have a serious discussion about this, & either work this out without surgery (at least on your part... if he doesn't want kids, he's the one who should be getting 'fixed'), or go your seperate ways.