why does it seem as though....
Posted Sat May 15, 2010 08:05 PM
Posted Sun May 16, 2010 04:31 AM
I suspect most of the girls on here are not really much different to any others in what they expect from men - just more open about it.
I think nearly all women will experiment and do crazy things in due course, but usually only when they think the time is right to take things to a new level.
They'd probably be quite hurt and even insulted if you weren't excited just by 'normal' sex with them at first - and if you're not, you need to have a big rethink. If you want more, there's no getting away from the fact that you have to work at it and earn it. And rightly so.
You may have a long wait, but it's worth it. I know - because I've been married 22 years, and it has taken nearly that long for my wife to want to do certain things I've asked for. But it's always been great fun - and, boy, am only getting the rewards now.
Posted Sun May 16, 2010 09:41 AM
He is spot on. I am willing to try new things and experiment but not with some john I just met. I need to be comfortable with the person and that takes time to build up trust to know that if something happened that I did not like they would be proactive about it. Either stopping or trying to make it better.
I went out on a date with a guy one time and it was fine. The second date he wanted to have sex and I was not opposed to it until he tried to talk me into a threesome. That was something I was not prepared for. And I felt insulted when he told me he was looking for someone who wanted to try new things. It made me feel cheap. I left and never looked back.
things like choking and being tied up. I'm not going to let some guy i just met do those things. hell I dont even let guys I just met touch the back of my head when I'm giving a bj cause i dont fucking trust them. Sure it may be boring sex to them for a while but the longer they stick with it the further I'm willing to go.
Posted Sun May 16, 2010 03:18 PM
And I also have to ask though, where are the crazy (in a good way) guys? These are the guys who are just as much curious with their own sexuality and willing to go outside their bounds as well.
Instead what seems to be the prevailing mentality is guys selfishly looking simply to add tics to some mental check list. That is, they aren't about the journey but the destination.
Start caring about the journey and you'll find more women who will gladly go there.
Posted Wed Jul 28, 2010 01:50 AM
This post has been edited by trophywife4fun: Wed Jul 28, 2010 02:00 AM
Posted Thu Nov 04, 2010 06:30 PM
Now and then a guy from here will want to meet and I feel pretty bad refusing, but I know that guys from here want to meet for wild sex. I like sex, and I like to be wanted because I am sexy, but I also want, maybe need, to be wanted for other things too - I want to be wanted because I am funny and witty and can have good conversations too. Also, I've seen it said on here so many times that hot sex is in the head, and for me that is so true, I love the exploration, the discovery, I love a guy's reactions as he learns that I am pretty open to trying new stuff; hooking up with a guy from here who already knows all of that would feel pretty mechanical to me.
You probably know quite a few women who are crazy in bed - but they aren't going to be walking around with a tattoo on their forehead.
Posted Sun Nov 07, 2010 08:03 AM
Lots of the things you label as "crazy"
aren't really safe, even with condoms. So, before I can do it
with a guy, I need to know he's healthy. If there was a test
you could perform on the spot, I'd probably be doing all these
things with strangers. It'd add to the kick.
Having said that, you should ask yourself the question:
do I have what it takes? Most men can't handle a woman
with an appetite in bed. They all think they can, but when they're
faced with the situation, they chicken out, their erections fail,
they worry they won't perform. Like these many men who post
here asking if their cocks are small. I won't go to bed with a man
who needs to ask such a question. I'd rather stay home and do the dishes.
Posted Sat Mar 26, 2011 11:16 AM
ya aint bein judged for bein horny or maybe bein real turned on by somethin a lil more risky then ur normal group of friends are use 2.
even some things that turn me on here, and i say im into, i mite chicken out in real life. its a great learnin place which in turn will make me more comfy in my actual sex life for tryin new things which im sooooo interested in doin. ive done some fun stuff, but...wow, ive heard lots i wanna try on this forum. and hearin those stories of peoples experiences, really heightened the desire to go out and get that for myself cuz feels like i know a lil more what to expect and not go in blindly. fear (not quite the rite word) of the unknown holds me back im sure in some areas and this has opened up some of those unknowns.
This post has been edited by babykissme: Sat Mar 26, 2011 11:16 AM
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Posted Wed Apr 13, 2011 09:35 AM
If you met me and my wife in everyday life you would never guess what we get up to.
We are not actively swinging at the moment, but plan to soon. But our swinging life style is totally seperate to our real lives. It may not be the same for everyone, but we do not mix our swinging friends with our real lives. Actually, most of our swinging partners we do not even know where they live.
You could tie up with a girl who has swung many times, but in general, I would say she would be unlikely to swing with you, initially anyway. The vast majority of swingers we have met, which is in the hundreds, (but only a few that we have actual swung with), are in loving long term relationships.
I read many threads where young couples are swinging after only being together for a few months. I don't get it! It seems to me that their relationship is not well founded if they swing that quickly.
But thats just me, perhaps we were slow in stepping up, although, for at least the first 10 years of our marriage, swinging was a fantasy that neither of us wanted to take further.
Posted Wed Apr 13, 2011 10:37 PM
I have, but I have found that crazy in a good way goes hand in hand with crazy in a not always good way. Maybe you filter out (consciously or unconsciously) the crazy people from your life. Some of the most fun and most enjoyable relationships (sexual and platonic) have been with people I would never leave alone in my house or with my kids. [edit: I did not mean to imply they were dangerous, merely irresponsible]
I also agree with many of the posters here. It is also possible that you don't get to know someone well enough and possibly you don't let your freak flag fly so no one knows it is safe for them to do the same. If you have read some of my posts, you will find that I am in the 'crazy' category: nudist, exhibitionist, large sex toy collection (between me and my spouse) possible porn addict, etc. But 99% of the people I interact with regularly have NO IDEA.
This post has been edited by Davendra: Wed Apr 13, 2011 10:43 PM
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Posted Tue Apr 19, 2011 09:46 AM
I think Miss C has nailed it! This is exactly true - when i was single and dating some women told me this almost verbatim. My wife too when we first started dating. Good stuff
Posted Wed May 11, 2011 12:54 AM