When do you call quits? Crazy people, hard times, and freedom
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 03:20 PM
I have a friend:
5yrs in a relationship, @ first he seemed happy. I know his girl and she is soooo mean, she dosn't watch her mouth and is completely oblivious to the things she says. A great example was a party last year; my buddy and I took our girls to a local house party, this is a typical house party. People were listening to music partying drinking and smoking alittle hippy salad. Out of the blue as if a mission from god she very sernly vomits "just so you know I have no respect for whoever smokes pot, and I hope you all go to jail", singling out my friend she walks over to him and enables him from socializing at this party. I couldn't help but feel sorry for him. This was just 1 party out of a 5 years in this relationship and he goes through the same thing everyday. I'm affaid he may marry this women and kill himself.
When is enough, enough?.
If love is worth fighing for, how long do you fight?
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 03:34 PM
I ended it with one when she made me mad I almost punched her in the face.
I ended it with another one when she showed that she was extremely selfish and had no desire to change.
I ended it with another one because I knew I couldn't not love her the way she deserved to be loved.
Your friends needs to reach his breaking point, and no matter how much you try to be there and point things out to him, he most likely won't listen.
I've had friends like that,and I use to give them advice when they asked. Over time, things got worse, they weren't taking my advice, so I stopped talking and just listened.
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 04:22 PM
This post has been edited by Loveshoponline: Sat Jul 10, 2010 04:23 PM
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 04:49 PM
He has to take responsibility for his part in the crumbling of that relationship.
If he chooses to put up with her attitude that is his fault, not hers. Unless she is paying all of the bills and he'll have nowhere to sleep if he leaves her, he should be able to just walk away.
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 05:12 PM
Now that I remember, I had a guy friend who had the most horrible girlfriend. After he managed to break up with her, everything seemed alright with him, but I became her worst enemy because she thought that it was my fault (not sexual, just friends). He went out with other girls, and in the end, he married the same old horrible girlfriend and now has 7 children with her.
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 09:10 PM
Usually the girls were just bitches, complained about everything/themselves/other people or I thought they weren't going to ever grow up/do anything with their life. I have plans, and if you're going to be a part of my life, and I'm willing to modify my life plans to include yours, you had better have something to include! Also when in a relationship I'm very honest, and I've had a girl accuse me of cheating/lying/etc for no reason. If you can't trust me, there's no way in hell I'm going to trust you.
To sum it up, it can be a number of reasons to make me realize I don't want to be with a girl anymore, but if I came with a manual it'd say "If he stops wanting to see your body, you should probably just leave now"
Posted Sat Jul 10, 2010 09:52 PM
Posted Mon Jul 12, 2010 01:49 PM
Posted Mon Jul 12, 2010 10:51 PM
He went out with other girls, and in the end, he married the same old horrible girlfriend and now has 7 children with her.
How's their marriage? Sometimes people change after you dump them.
Anyhow, for me, when I was young and stupid, I "might've" put up with that if she's really good, but now, would've dumped immediately.
This post has been edited by ddigg6: Mon Jul 12, 2010 10:52 PM
Posted Sat Aug 28, 2010 06:25 AM
However, if you're worried about him and he seems genuinely unhappy, maybe you can just talk to him directly about it.
It does really seem like this girl is controlling and manipulative. Doesn't seem like a healthy relationship.
Posted Mon Aug 30, 2010 09:21 PM
I think you should talk with your friend. Really talk.