ladies help get my girl to masturbate
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 06:37 AM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 08:29 AM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 09:14 AM
Anyway, maybe she needs to pick out something that she likes and is comfortable with. Maybe she doesn't need a toy at all..
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 09:20 AM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 11:33 AM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 02:47 PM
They make toys that don't look like penises. She'll easily be able to find one if it's the penis shape that's bothering her, as you said.
They also have toys that aren't necessarily meant to be inserted (i.e. clitoral vibrators). So if inserting a toy hurts her, she can get a finger vibrator or an "egg" vibrator that's small, and she doesn't need to put it inside herself. She definitely shouldn't be fucking herself to the point of pain or bleeding.
Or there are toys that are meant to be inserted, but she needs to get a size she's comfortable with. She obviously doesn't need a huge, 12" dildo with a big, round cock head and all kinds of textures and stuff all over it. She might be happy with a simple, smooth glass toy that's maybe 4-5" inches long and not especially thick.
And that's another idea. She should consider the material the toy is made of, too. She may not like glass. Maybe she would prefer plastic. Or maybe she would prefer a jellylike toy that doesn't necessarily feel "real."
She can get a toy that doesn't vibrate at all, if she's saying she "doesn't feel anything" when she uses the vibrator on herself. Or if she just doesn't like the vibrations or the feeling. If she does like the vibrations, she can get a toy with multiple patterns of vibrations or multiple speeds/intensity settings so she can control how strong the vibrations are.
There really is a sex toy for everyone. Take her to a sex shop rather than ordering online. At a sex shop, she can actually see, hold, feel (in her hands), etc., any toy before she buys it, and she'll know she's getting something she likes. If you try to order online, she won't really know whether or not she likes it before it comes in the mail, and you've already paid for it then.
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 02:55 PM
This post has been edited by Avenger55: Wed Jul 14, 2010 02:55 PM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 03:39 PM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 03:54 PM
This takes time, they didn't build Rome in a day and you're not going to get her to beat up that pussy while you watch until the time is right.
You've stated that you are not currently watching porn together yet but she wants to. I would take her up on that offer and just watch it together. Maybe when she feels completely comfortable you can suggest she rub her pussy while you watch the movie together while at the same time you stroke your cock. Mutual masterbation can open up some sexual doors for you if you take it slow and wait til she is ready to take things to the next level.
Baby steps, one mst learn how to walk before they can run.
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 04:33 PM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 04:45 PM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 05:00 PM
Posted Wed Jul 14, 2010 05:41 PM
Yep, you just have to look.
Posted Thu Jul 15, 2010 09:41 AM
It's a fun way to start things off, tell her it's forplay, and that you would really like to try the game. If she really want to make you happy she will go along with it at least once.
Good luck, and keep us informed on your progress..