Not sure how to describe this so that it doesn't sound silly but - here goes:
I've read that one out of three relationships these days start online. Well - I've met someone through Facebook.
She doesn't seem to consider herself famous. But whether she likes it or not, she IS semi-famous.
(She's a backup singer for a MAJOR band.) The reason I know that it is really her is that she's posted many, many
personal photos of herself on her Facebook page. (I have a couple of other ways that "prove" it too.)
She's not THAT well-known but - there's fans of the band who would be pretty blown away if they even saw her
walking down the street. And - here's the thing -
We've hit it off. I don't mean she's writing home about me or anything but - - We really do get along and we see eye-to-eye
on many things. And - she's nice. Oh by the way - she's gorgeous. I mean drop-dead fucking gorgeous; she was once a
runner-up in a state-wide beauty contest.
Enter, of course, the Trumpet Player. The whole nine yards; he smooth-talked her, lied to her, cheated on her and now they're
divorced. Generally treated her like crap, is the impression that I have. I don't know how long ago that was but I believe
it was fairly recent. Certainly within five years. Burst bubbles, "I'll NEVER love again," "What's wrong with me," the whole
shpiel. So - naturally - especially considering that this is the Internet - she's quite jumpy. And she's been flooded with requests to meet band members, or questions about them, gotten messages from plenty of nutbars, etc. In her "real life," obviously, she is the type of woman who is quite used to being "approached" by guys; she has plenty of options (but genuinely doesn't seem to let it go to her head), and she knows it; I'm sure there's a whole string of guys with crushes and broken hearts. You get the idea.
On the other hand, awhile back she felt she had to take down her facebook page for awhile 'cause the crazies were getting out of hand. Out of hundreds of guys who are Friends with her, she chose me and one other guy to p.m. to explain in detail what was going on. I'm not sure how much credit to give this, but one person has told me that "the feeling's mutual."
Is that it? "No, now for the FIRE!"
She lives hundreds of miles away from me. And - Obviously, I'm in "extreme danger" of the whole "Gee you're nice but I just see you as a friend" thing; or getting labelled as a "Fan." (I've tried very carefully to avoid that.)
I don't want to freak her out, either. But - yeah you see it coming -
I love her. I *really* effing love her. I know I have to keep it in perspective, but I really do think she and I could get along
really well - potentially could even be perfect for each other and maybe even fall in love and get married.
And I feel that she and I (in some ways) are already WAY past her looks and her fleeting (and decreasing...) fame.
She's been there and done that and now (maybe...) it's time to settle down.
So - well, there it is. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. It's . . . "a delicate situation."
I feel like I'm walking on glass here but the clock's ticking. And the THING is -
I'm certain that she's worth it.
I remember at my best friend's wedding, the Priest said something about how they had come together
"after much consultation and advice from loved ones, friends and acquaintances."
They mangaged to get together, though. Even through broken hearts and other
obstacles that *they* faced. And not everyone, but some people would consider him, or her, to be the luckiest person in the world to be married to the other.
All the rest is "just numbers."
This post has been edited by Ghost_Tracker: Mon Jul 19, 2010 11:52 PM