Posted Fri Jul 23, 2010 10:48 PM
I am curious to know how others feel about "SOULMATES" do you believe in them? Do, you believe there is only "ONE" true person meant and intended for everyone! Or do you not believe are you more on the side that not everyone is intended to find someone but those who do are just lucky to have found someone who they can spend a life time with.
Yes, I do have a story its not one that I am ready to share openly and publicly just yet! But I am wondering as I said where others stand.
Posted Sat Jul 24, 2010 07:16 AM
...this attitude is probably close to my personal opinion. In general, I do not believe in magical fate and I do not believe that we are predestined to meet someone who has always been predestined to be the right one for us.
However, I do not deny that some people - including me - may have the feeling that I can be fully satisfied and happy only and only with this one person. And at the end of our life we may say that yes, nothing in my life proved me wrong. And others may say at the end of their life "how foolish I was when I thought - 40 years ago - that my ex-wife was the only right person for me"...
I am not against causality and I do not deny some degree of determinism. The causal links are so complex that our mind will never be able to comprehend all levels of determinism in its full complexity. But I do not believe in fate - or in the events being "pushed" by some "final" stage.
The number of people who are "right" for you and the intensity of your feelings or reciprocated feelings with them depends on many factors - e.g. your personality, character traits, whether you are an usual or rare kind of person etc...I guess that the rarer (or "stranger", more unusual) kind of person you are, the lower number of suitable partners there are for you. Personally, I consider myself to be quite "strange" - bordering with some pathological features, so I am inclined to say that when I met my current girlfriend (who has been the first woman in my life who I have been able to experience a really mutually satisfying relationship - love, sex, interests, personalities etc...at the age of 30, after two long-term relationships, including one failed marriage) it was a "miracle" - miracle in terms of statistically improbable event.
I am really speechless when I try to express how much I value this wonderful statistical miracle...
But in general I would say that many things may be explained in terms of correspondence between your needs and your partner´s qualities and vice versa - her needs and your qualities. If this complex correspondence is reached on many levels, then you have a perfect partner and you may never meet someone like her again till your death. Unfortunately, there are also many unlucky people who have never found anyone who would fit this description.
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agree with that a little Vanessa, its shit when someone you thought of as your soulmate shits on you from a great height
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Posted Thu Jul 29, 2010 12:25 PM
exactly my sentiment. i think i only truly loved with a pure heart once. i'm not saying i'm not capable of love anymore, but i don't think i can ever love somebody else like that again.