Making connections with other members
Posted Sat Jul 31, 2010 08:57 PM
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Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 03:26 AM
Personally, I suffer with every loss I have in my life when it comes to friends... I'm quite reserved in real life, and although I post a lot here, I only communicate with a limited number of people on a regular basis. I answer most PMs, but I do it in a very neutral way. The most personal communications are only for the ones you see in my list of friends... Maybe a few more. You could say I'm not very friendly, but that's not the case... What I am not is superficial, and as such I expect certain character, that's why I don't cyber, don't cam, and don't chat with anybody. Friendships still develop, but they're more meaningful if you put the person first and the sex after.
Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 04:02 AM
Reasons? A multitude, they find another community, life in the physical world, boredom, a computer malfunction etc etc.
Personally the communities I frequent, I always try and keep folk in the loop if there is going to be or has been a period of inactvity, bit like leaving an online message on the ansaphone.
By the same token, folk can reappear unexpectedly after going abscent. Yes it can be frustrating but it happens folk falling off the radar.
Also everybody is different and there will not be a uniformed pattern of behaviour.
It's good etiquette to keep folk informed, if you can.
On another community recently a great guy passed away after a stay in hospital, those situations happen too, and are the saddest of absences.
At least a short note/update stops people filling in the blanks with second guessing and wild speculation and inaccuracies.
Ok I'm going to grab some breakfast, good topic btw!
Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 04:05 AM
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I also find this happens with my non online friends too, its like I always have be the one to ring them or text them and they only contact me something important or they want something.
Anyway I would like to connect more with people here and be able hold a conversation and be someone that people want to talk to, I do find most of the time though when I pm someone or on the rare occasion one of my friend pm's me I have more to talk about and I not the one who works the conversation or tries to keep it going. I am not round here a lot these days but I only know two of my friends who miss me or care when I do not stop by.
I find mostly I am the one who works hard to keep in touch with people here but they do not try to stay in touch the same way and It does bug me a little when I make an effort to chat or have conversations with people then they stop responding and either making it hard for me to start a conversation when they ignore me. I know what your thinking Jade I am not the best conversationist but I like to think I try my best to have a conversation or stay in touch with my friends.
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Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 11:00 AM
Why thank you for saying so Olive that mean a lot your a sweet beautiful lady.
Yes it is odd when someone just drops off the radar and you worry about them and try to find out if there ok and all you get is nothing, I lost a lot of really old friends like that and it is annoying and somehow upsets me more now than it used to but I have become more emotionally challenged these days. But I get by and still remember old friends dropped off out of my life though.
Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 11:06 AM
Posted Sun Aug 01, 2010 11:33 AM
Now, there's a line between avoiding and ignoring... I would never ignore my friends, I would ignore people whom I don't consider my friends and bother me in some measure.