What would/do you do when someone says something hurtful about you in a public place, to a group of others loud enough for you to hear?
The reason I am asking is because; I went to the public pool the other day, in my bikini. As I was walking back to my chair to tan some more, a teen (probably 15 years old) sitting with 5 other teens (around 15 to 17 years of age) said loud enough for me to hear "Geez, put some clothes on".
I am not model skinny but I am not so fat that a bikini is out of the question. Actually, I don't believe my weight and figure were the problem. I think it was my psoriasis, which is very noticeable in bright day light. I can see why it puts people off or repels them; it would me too, especially if I didn't know what it is. I've had it since I was 15 so I'm pretty used to these cruel remarks. I AM going to tan to help my psoriasis no matter what anyone says. I tell myself "it's just a kid who needs to point out peoples flaws just to make themselves look good" Problem is even though I kept walking and laid down to tan acting like I had not herd, I had heard and it was echoing over and over in my head. The more it echoed the more I noticed people looking at me frequently. When I had first gotten there the hot male lifeguards kept glancing my way, I felt pretty with my new flat tummy. Dam people with loose lips! If you find the need to say cruel things about people you should bite your tongue or at least wait until the person is out of ear shot.. What I don't know won’t hurt me. After hearing that Every time a hot guard looked at me, I felt the need to hide. Are they looking at ME or are they looking at my skin? You can't miss the skin; it had to be the skin. Moreover, I am tanned, making my psoriasis turn white against tan skin and they really stand out, like large white freckles. I bet I could lose all my weight, get down to 120 with a six pack for abs and because of my skin some smart ass will say under there breath "Geez put some clothes on"
I am a woman. I cry! And damit it was hard not to cry when 6 or more people are laughing at you as you walk by for something I can never change no matter how hard I try.
I controlled my emotions by diving into the 12-foot end of the pool and swimming as fast as I could back and forth across the pool. I pushed myself to keep going until I could think of nothing but the pain in my legs and the burn in my lungs. These kids were not even thinking about what that boy said, it went in one ear and out the other. I bet the kid does not even remember saying it. They will continue there day all smiles while I hear "Geez put some clothes on" like I am a hideous creature.
Don't tell me to “just forget it”, that’s easier said than done.
I am not hung up on it, I still go to the pool every day in my bikini and I know I am beautiful despite the spots. It's just that for about 5 minutes at the pool I almost started crying because it made me feel so bad. At the pool, I was able to swim off the anger and hurt. I have been put in similar situations, not about clothes but rude remarks directed at me in a public place and I had no way of immediately working the anger and hurt off. I have cried in front of everyone at my kids’ school because I have trouble keeping my emotions in check. I mean I am pushing my fingers on my tear ducts trying to block them from coming out, repeating over and over reasons why I shouldn't cry and tried thinking of other things, tried telling a joke but once I start it is like a flood that will not stop. I hate crying. It is more embarrassing than my psoriasis. I physically can't stop myself once I start. Why don't people just keep there mouths shut when they have nothing nice to say?!?! my mom taught me that when I was little... I know some people are just jerks...
Any who... so lets here how you would have reacted if you were in my position... and how you react to these situations in general