Instant turn offs?
Posted Tue Aug 17, 2010 09:10 PM
One girl throw me into bed with her and told she wanted to fuck me just 2 make her ex jealous. I was done the very minute she said that.
Posted Tue Aug 17, 2010 10:38 PM
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Posted Wed Aug 18, 2010 04:50 PM
-pretended or real shyness combined with feeling guilty for doing "the dirty thing"
-crossing her legs like in a violent spasm when she thinks there is a danger of me trying to give her oral
-saying "I do not know whether we have done the right thing, we should take things slowly" immediately after the "shameful act"
-avoiding touching the penis by her hand as if it was a piece of glowing metal or something made of arsenic
-playing hard to get and then acting like a trophy, doing a favour to me by lending me some of her attention and precious time
These are some of the most effective ways how to get rid of me and never see me again.
Posted Wed Aug 18, 2010 04:58 PM
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Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 02:20 AM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 12:09 PM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 05:49 PM
If she started to speak in terms of generalisations along the lines: "Men are....", "This is typical for men....", "Women are....", "Women need....", it would upset me.
I completely understand that men and women are different - in general - and I do not deny that there is a grain of truth in some of the stereotypes. But it is something different to use such generalisations when speaking and thinking from the sociological perspective or statistical perspective (of course there are many statistically significant differences between men and women in general population and these differences should not be ignored or overlooked by scientists or thinkers), in this case it is justifiable and natural, BUT it is something different when someone applies these "general/statistical principles" automatically when dealing with an individual with whom he/she is in an intimate relationship.
You know, there may be huge amount of research supporting the fact that men score higher in technical tasks while women may score higher in tests focused on empathy - but if my partner started to assume automatically that I MUST BE more technically skilled ("all men....research shows...") than she and that she is by definition more empathical than me ("research shows that women...therefore I...."), it would turn me off...
Fortunately, she does not do this and she has never done it. Fortunately, both of us are far from being "typical" examples of men/women and we are pretty aware of it. Although we love learning more and more about all kinds of gender-related research and we also love all kinds of speculations about "men" and "women", we are aware that all this valid amount of evidence about differences between two groups of people (men and women) cannot be applied automatically to each individual belonging to one of those groups. When we deal with each other, we do not act as if we were dealing with some kind of research entities, no matter how much we might be fascinated by all kinds of research findings...
(now I cannot remember what I wanted to say by this, but nevermind, I will not delete it:))
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 06:45 PM
Posted Fri Aug 20, 2010 07:55 PM
Also, it happened once or twice, the guy I was with was on the live chat here at the same time, so he'd randomly stop to start typing... That got me really angry