Hard to climax...why?
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 08:44 AM
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 08:48 AM
Aside from that, stressing over it will only make it worse... Try to eliminate orgasm as the main goal of sex, and just enjoy the sex itself, maybe that will help...
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 09:28 AM
I'll reiterate what Seven of Nine said. Sometimes birth control or other meds can affect horomone levels. A variety of other things can cause a horomonal shift as well.
First off, an orgasm doesn't need to be reached every time for sex to be enjoyable. Heck, I don't orgasm from penetration at all, as well as many other women I know. But I still enjoy sex. However, if the problem is not just the climaxes but involves pleasure and enjoyment in general, you may need to look into ways to "spice things up". It's natural to get sick of the same old-same old after awhile.
Pre-marital counseling is a good idea anyway. It wouldn't be a bad option. However, going just to discuss your no-climax problem is a bit extreme, unless you think it's psychological (something that happened in your past or whatnot). Don't view pre-marital counseling as a horrible thing. Many people go that don't have problems, just to help their impending marriage succeed.
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 11:39 AM
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 11:50 AM
It might just be the circumstances you and your partner have been trough. You can either give it some more time... or seek advice form a therapist or someoone else.. it is nothing to be ashamed of.... if it is for the good of both you and your partner it is probably the way to go.
Also.. do you climax by masturbating? if you do then it might be the sexual act with a partner that is not working.. just try that one out.
Hope everything works out
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 12:21 PM
Posted Thu Aug 10, 2006 05:39 PM