Sex is a problem in this relationship.
Posted Mon Aug 14, 2006 11:56 PM
Additionally, there is a new rule. If we have an argument, we cannot have sex that day. The intimacy in our relationship has turned into a punishment and I think it's bullshit. Like having an argument means that I love her any less...
In her youth, (we're now 25) she used to be this sexual butterfly but not anymore. Any attempt to talk about this just puts us in circles, ends with an argument and you know what that means... :eusa_naug
Am I crazy?
Posted Tue Aug 15, 2006 12:05 AM
Posted Tue Aug 15, 2006 12:44 AM
Posted Tue Aug 15, 2006 12:48 AM
One thing that could help you is starting some sort of activity together. I would actually suggest joining a gym in this case, and going there a couple of times a week together to work out. Not only will this help her lose weight which will probably make her happy if she's as stressed as you say she is about it, but it'll allow you to increase intimacy and probably bring you two closer together.
Of course you don't want her to get the wrong idea when you talk to her about it. Instead approach her by saying that you've been wanting to be more active and were thinking of joining a gym and were wondering if she wanted to as well so that you could spend some more time together. Then set some definite times a couple of times a week so it's like you're clearly making the effort to want to spend more time with just her. It might help. JUST MAKE SURE YOU MAKE IT OUT LIKE YOU WANT TO JOIN THE GYM BECAUSE YOU WANT TO GET IN MORE SHAPE, NOT BECAUSE SHE NEEDS IT.
Posted Tue Aug 15, 2006 09:54 AM
She hasn't lost interest in sex. She enjoys it when it happens.
She is going back to school in the fall which makes a together activity more difficult but not impossible.