Sex after pregnancy? But wait, there's more...or should be...
Posted Tue Sep 07, 2010 01:00 PM
The problem is, owing to a thyroid condition, my wife's hormones have been out of whack since before we got pregnant, and since our baby was born, we've not had sex. Likewise, the last time we'd had sex was after a Halloween party we'd attended.
There've not been arguments or anything like that, although my wife is upset about her total lack of sex drive. I'm not upset; to be honest I just want her to feel better. I am, however, frustrated both sexually and emotionally, because other than occasional cuddling and snuggling, hugs and kisses, there's nothing going on between us right now.
I just want to know is this normal/temporary/going to change?
Posted Tue Sep 07, 2010 01:38 PM
Posted Tue Sep 07, 2010 08:26 PM
Posted Tue Sep 07, 2010 10:04 PM
But seriously . . . she has just gone thru this miraculous and tumultous process called child birth. Her body has done this amazing thing that has screwed it up royaly, it has to recover and it will . . .mother nature is amazing. But her husband has to be equally amazing.
Her brain is trying to process the responsibility that she now has. Needless to say she is distracted and her chemistry needs time to recover. The best way to get back in the groove so to speak is for you to be patient, give her space but support her. Take care of the baby and give her time away from the responsibility of tending him or her. She will love you for your tender care of the baby. Help her do daily things, show you care and appreciate her. Be affectionate but not cloying. Get inside her head and help her feel good about herself. Give her body time to recover.
She will love you for the understanding and attention you give her and you will allow her to relax her mind and her body. Her libido will resurface if you take care of her and love her for what she has done and is doing and you show her. With her libido rested and repaired your goal should be then to remove distractions.
After all this the sex will flow.
This post has been edited by tenyn: Tue Sep 07, 2010 10:24 PM
Posted Wed Sep 08, 2010 12:23 AM
Of course, now we're both so tired from raising two boys we're lucky if we collapse, exhausted, within 10 feet of each other. But really, having kids is awesome.
Posted Wed Sep 08, 2010 08:48 AM
I have been trying to get her to see the doctor, because she's got a host of hypothyrodic symptoms that were under control previously...and the exhaustion of having a 6 month old is wearing on both of us. Body-wise, she's usually not that self-conscious, though I admit it could be an issue (though normally she's open enough to discuss such things) and she knows I find her attractive and desirable.
Hopefully things will readjust.