best way to get what you want
Posted Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:23 PM
Posted Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:38 PM
Anyway, there are four possible reasons that I can think up right now why she might not want to do it--
She thinks it isn't clean, she isn't really that familiar with what a penis is like, she doesn't want gooky stuff in her mouth, she doesn't know yet where the relationship is and how much trust yall have with each other.
So, showering together and her washing it might help. Handjobs and things like that will get her familiar with how it feels and how you react. She can start out very gradually with little ways of using her mouth on you without having the head actually in her mouth. And you need to make sure you both understand what your relationship means to you and where sex fits in.
Just a few thoughts. I'm guessing really, cuz I don't think it's gross.
Posted Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:41 PM
Posted Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:45 PM
Posted Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:49 PM
Posted Tue Sep 05, 2006 08:59 AM
at the same time i agree with leghumper's point--if someone isn't sexually open-minded, they probably aren't going to change. its one thing if you're taking it slow in the beginning of a relationship, this is always a very good thing. but if you're already having sex and doing other things, but she doesn't seem to want to try things out, then this probably says something.
people can get a little more comfy with things gradually though. a few tips to suggest...are you saying she's not into oral both ways? what is her hangup? there are different positions and ways to do a blowjob that are different, some ppl like more than others. is she grossed out by the idea of the cum? how about you giving her oral--have you done that? would she be comfy with that?
try to go at this from different angles, try to find out exactly what grosses her out. if its something rational and legit then you can maybe respect her. otherwise maybe you can help her get more comfy. just don't make her feel like you're asking too many questions because you are pressuring her!
Posted Tue Sep 05, 2006 10:57 AM