This is killing me, so I have to tell somebody. I have been with my Wife for about 8 years. We have been married for 1 1/2 years. When we first met, she was a virgin, and we waited a long time to have sex (about 8 months or so I think). After the first time, we had sex alot. We had a pretty good sex life. As time went on, I noticed her interest in having sex got less and less. The longer we dated, the more pressure I got for us to get married. I do love my wife to death, and I am extremely attracted to her physically. About 2 or 3 years ago, her sexual interest got VERY low. We had sex less and less often. I figured that this was because she was feeling that since we had been dating for so long, she didn't want to keep giving it up to someone that had doubts about marrying her. I really never had any doubts in my mind about marriage. I knew that she was the one.......I just drug my feet due to just plain being nervous, and trying to get myself into the perfect situation to be married - have a good amount of money in the bank, get a house for us to live in, etc. Anyway, I finally popped the question and we got married in June of '05. We were very happy, however my became bittersweet very fast. We took our honeymoon in a GORGEOUS resort in the Carribean. It was absolute paradise. We were there for a week and it was absolutely amazing!! The only thing that killed it was the fact that we only had sex 2 TIMES DURING THE HONEYMOON! I was mostly shocked, as it was always my understanding that your honeymoon was supposed to be constant relaxation, room service, and most of all SEX. Not just any sex - dirty, kinky, wonderful, loving, wild animal "we just got married" sex. By the way, I am 27 years old, and she is 26 (we are not old). Ever since then, we barely have sex at all. Just so you know, I am very sexually inclined. I love sex. Most of all, I love having sex with her. I think about it all the time. And it doesn't help at all being very very attracted to a half naked women in bed with you every night who has absolutely no interest in sex whatsoever. We have sex an average of 2 times a MONTH for the past 2 years now, and of those 2 times MAYBE 1 time is good. The rest of the times it feels just like she is only having sex with me so that I don't get pissed off. I'll get a couple blowjobs during the month too (maybe 2 a month) but she doesn't want ANYTHING in return after I am finished.....like she only did it so I would not get upset or so she didn't have to have sex with me. Or, she will give me a blowjob in the morning because she feels bad about falling asleep early AGAIN the night before. This is absolutely killing me. I go to bed 4 nights a week pissed off because I had been thinking about making love to my wife ALL DAY and I get nothing. I have had to resort to jerking off about 4 times a week. We have gotten in a few fights about this over the last couple of years, and she always gives some stupid excuse like she hasn't been feeling well lately (3 years?) or she is stressed out or some shit like that. I swear to god, if I didn't initiate sex, and I watched what I did as not to show that I am pissed - I bet we would have sex 1 time every 2-3 months. I recently looked up some statistics, and it seems that married couples in their 60's+ have sex more often than we do. It is like that very last thing that she is thinking about. The other night we were bored. There was nothing on TV, nothing to do, nobody to hang out with.....just us. Now one would think that a newlywed couple given nothing else to do on a Friday night would somehow or another end up fucking on the couch or something. She looked at me and said "lets go to Target and buy a board game." A board game?? Are you shitting me?? What are we, 12? This is really killing, and I apoligize for this post being so damn long, but I had to tell somebody what I am going through. I am very scared that this is going to kill our marriage (atleast MY marriage). I can only handle this for so long. I don't want to cheat on my Wife ever, but I feel like another year of this, and my penis will go on strike and jump out at the first woman that gives me some sexual attention! What should I do?? Therre are alot of things sexually that I want to try or do or experiment with. I have brought them all up to her before. She will act like she is listening to me, then a coule months will go by, and will never talk about it again. I am afraid that I am going to wake up one morning and be 65 years old and say "now I'm too old to fuck and I never got to do any of the things that I wanted to do when I was young! Oh well." Thanks for letting me vent.
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GOD! I need to vent.........
Posted Fri Sep 08, 2006 12:06 AM
You need to talk to her. Sit her down at a time when you've both got hours to spare and tell her how you feel. Don't blame her or accuse, just tell her how bad this is making you feel. It could be something hormonal with her. Is she on B/C? I have to say that i really don't think this is fair on her part, but maybe there really is a reason. You'll never find out if you don't ask.