Only orgasm when I fantasize about a girl eating me out
Posted Sun Sep 19, 2010 03:17 AM
I fantasize about having some girl eat my pussy in the shower of the locker room and then i will eat her out. I want to do it just once so bad to know how it feels.
is this crazy? I would never tell my husband i have this fantasy.
Posted Sun Sep 19, 2010 10:02 AM
This post has been edited by Messalina: Sun Sep 19, 2010 10:03 AM
Posted Sun Sep 19, 2010 03:55 PM
Posted Fri Sep 24, 2010 06:18 PM
i am not married but me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 years. if she asked for something like this (yeah even without me joining or even watching) i would let her do it because i love her so much that i don't want to lose her, and i know that if i forbid her from doing it she would most likely do it behind my back.
Posted Sun Sep 26, 2010 03:28 PM
Posted Sun Oct 24, 2010 08:00 PM
The only way to figure out what's going on is to be honest with yourself. Have you been able to get off with men you've slept with in the past - without fantasizing about a woman? Have you ever found yourself attracted to a female friend in a sexual way (i.e. wondering what she looks like naked or what she's like in bed)? Do you watch lesbian porn more than any other type of porn?
I'm not saying that you're definitely a lesbian or anything like that, but from your original post, it seems like this is something to at least think about. If you don't have any other gay tendencies and only fantasize about women during the time when you're receiving oral, then maybe your guy just isn't giving you what you're looking for when he goes down on you.
If nothing else, you should at least talk to him about what you like when he gives you oral. Do you like biting/nibbling down there? What about sucking? Licking? How and using what motions (circles or up and down or back and forth from side to side)? Do you like fingering or anal stimulation at the same time? What about breast stimulation at the same time? Maybe you'd fantasize about women less if he was doing what you wanted or if you could coach him, in a way.
Fantasizing about women is a common fantasy among straight women, too. I think it has something to do with the idea that a woman would know exactly how to go down on you because she has all the same parts and knows what *she* likes and would do those things to you. Having this fantasy doesn't automatically make you a lesbian. However, it's certainly possible that you're bi-curious/bi-sexual/a lesbian. Only you can know for sure after you take a look at your sexual habits, fantasies, and past.