Anal Sex. Does it change the dynamic in the bedroom?
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 02:04 PM
Meaning, if you, as a girl, were to perform anything anal on your guy (ie. fingering), would you feel like the dynamic has changed? Do you enjoy being submissive in the bedroom, leaving anal play to your butt only?
My girlfriend and I enjoy anal sex, but only if it's being given to her. This isn't to be confused with me being selfish or afraid, but if we were to try anal play on me it wouldn't feel right. We enjoy sex much more when the man is the dominant one, and the female is submissive. There is something sexy and empowering about having anal sex, and we just can't avoid being drawn to it.
Not that it would change the way we approach it, but I enjoy conversations surrounding anal sex and the feelings people associate with it. How do you all feel about anal sex?
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 02:35 PM
ocassionally my wife will playfully poke me with her finger at random times. It's always when I am dressed and doesn't go any further than that.
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 03:04 PM
I think anal sex is a very loving act; it demands great gentleness from me and total trust from my wife. It would be painful and unpleasant otherwise.
She always receives, never me.
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 06:56 PM
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 07:49 PM
I understand it to be more a role play, but I sort of think that the physically weaker person--for example in most cases when the woman is the receiver--in a lot of ways very powerful (and not necessarily in a submissive role) because she is the person who says yeah or nay and sets the pace while the physically stronger person is obliged to exercise some control.
I also think that there is this idea that fiery, taboo, hot sex (not actual BDSM) looks like somebody is being dominated, but from my perpective---at least psychologically---is that the acting of dominance is to show me that he has the potential to protect me from other men; and not that he is dominating me. So the appeal of him acting dominant is that psychologically it reminds me of his strength, etc.
I haven't tried any form of anal with my partner, but if I were to think about what it would be like if he were to receive, it might feel weird initially just because culturally we are not used to straight men receiving anal from women. But I can see how that weirdness would be short-lived once I could see his pleasure.
Posted Mon Sep 27, 2010 08:19 PM
Just need to add that I don't feel any more or any less dominant or submissive... Sorry, I don't think I've ever felt unlevelled... I always participate actively, and I welcome any kind of spontaneous treatment that doesn't seem to come out of a porn scene.
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This post has been edited by scandallass: Thu Sep 30, 2010 01:26 PM