any tips on dispelling sexual tension between friends?
Posted Thu Sep 30, 2010 03:21 PM
My problem is i have a bit of a stupid crush on a housemate and we joke about this and that, and as housemates and close friends theres a warm feeling, between all of us in the house(of 5 in total) so saying i love you is pretty common, ofcourse with the added "not in a sexual way" cause he is over eager and makes a hell of a lot of sexual jokes about most anything.
What got me spooked was his text back from something like the above which said " i love you too! sometimes in a sexual way. lol "
How do i crush this pesky sexual tension, without actually having sex with him? will the crush go away or am i buggered and likely to kill my current relationship?
Posted Thu Sep 30, 2010 04:26 PM
Or fuck him.
Only two ways I can see it.
Posted Thu Sep 30, 2010 06:11 PM
Posted Fri Oct 01, 2010 07:51 PM
Ask yourself whether these little flirtations ever happen in front of your boyfriend. If they do, it will probably be easy to control, because no one is trying to hide anything. If you two (you and the crush) wait to be alone to have your sexy play talk- you also mentioned text messages- then it becomes something that one or both of you feel a need to hide. This is a problem, because the more we hide from our partners, the easier it becomes.
And understand that privacy and secrecy are not the same thing. Everyone knows when you're taking a shower, for example- it's not a secret- but that doesn't mean you want an audience, because it's private.
Of course though, if you run the shower while you and your roommate are actually fucking on the toilet, that's keeping a secret...
This post has been edited by ScottyWright: Fri Oct 01, 2010 07:51 PM
Posted Sat Oct 02, 2010 03:51 PM
She said it would be great, we could be room mates who fuck. I just knew it would end poorly.
You can't go from being good friends to room mates to room mates with benefits and expect something not to go wrong.
Posted Sun Oct 03, 2010 12:45 PM